Hey girl me and my hubs had a rough bump a few days ago. Infertility is so tolling and difficult. you are not alone in this we are all here for u. I hope things get better over the weekend. They can say things that hurt our feelings and it is making things more complicated when we fight. Just remember to love each other and take care of each other. What ever you are feeling just try to let it go and move forward. Sometimes it hard but tell him you love him. After a fight that can be tough. But it will start in the right direction on getting things back to normal. Good luck and hugs.

I'm sorry. I don't know the specific of your fight but make sure to let your DH know how much you are hurting. The best thing is communication. It is hard not to have it out once in awhile when we are all under this crazy stress. I know DH and I get into once in awhile just because we are both dealing with so much and it has to come out sometime. I wish that you could just spend time with your DH this weekend and that you didn't have all these baby events. Don't go if you aren't feeling up to them. It sounds like youhave enough going on.

Did the same thing two nights ago. We had a failed IVF and I never thought in a million years I would have felt as horrible as I did. My husband on the other hand decided to stay at work late not talk about how I felt and I felt like I was the only person in the whole world. And I was in misery. I just needed some comfort and DH was not there complete disconnect. Had a complete melt down and told him if this is how was going to be then I didn't want to go through the possible pain of another let down without being a team. I was thinking after I thought I wanted to kill him that no matter how bad I want to have a little one and create a family, I love him. I think this is why I held off so long doing IVF is becasue I think you can so easily loose yourself and your marriage to the baby process. I had to remind myself that one day this baby of ours will grow up and leave and I want to still be madly in love with my DH and him with me. The most important thing in any family is a bond between the mom and dad. I had to get a grip and I just needed the DH to hear my pain. We have been pretty good since. He went to a place and made dinners for the next month by himself. Try to remember that you guys are the most important and eventually everything will fall into place and when it does you want to still love each other. It is scary and I so understand how you feel. Try to get through this weekend and remember that even though it is someone elses shower and little birthday you will have yours and you don't want any regrets. I believe in Karma and I think it is important to be excited and happy for everyone that celebrates a wonderful gift of a baby. Hang in there sweetie.

wannabeybey is right...And our husbands mean well, but they just don't get it completely. Just lean on us here at DS. Things will get better with DH just give it some time. We are all here for you!

I am so sorry that you are feeling bad! My husband and I have been pretty disconnected lately, too.

awww hun i'm so sorry. my fiance and i had a rough couple of days not too long ago. seriously rough. i can really relate. talking it out is good though. give yourself time to process what you're feeling and i'm sure you will both be just fine.

just want you to know i am praying for you. im so sorry this is all happening right now for you

I'm sorry..i had the same thing happen about a week ago. I was sooo sad and couldn't snap out of it and didn't know if I would and he said you have to think of other things and that I was being selfish not going to his families baby shower. I got soooo mad and told him he doesn't know how I feel and I will go to things when I am ready. We are MUCH better now, it takes time to get over these things. It will get better again

I am sorry. We go through it sometimes too. I think it is normal, especially with all the added stress and hormones flying around. I am sure it will take a little time to work through the emotions of it, like most things and then you will feel better. They say through pain comes strength and through tough times comes growth. And although the hard, painful times suck, I do believe those statements.
I will be thinking of you this weekend and on Monday. I pray everything works out. We are all here for you. (((HUG)))

HUGS for you...
I hope you have a better day!
God Bless

I know where you are coming from my hubby and I hit a rough spot last year but you get through, we talked and talked and finally found out how scared her was and how upseting it was to him that he coulsn't fix our problem and how much he hated to see me upset and that he couldn't make me feel better. Big blow out lead to us becoming much closer and understanding each others feeling as men and women have a very diffrent view of things. We are here for you if you need a shoulder to lean on.