Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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kimbochi 06/26/2007

I am just having a "meltdown" right now- trying to start af after spotting for 3 days so far... I feel like an emotional wreck. I have my lap in two days and I am freaking out! I also found out one of my best friends, whom I teach with (and we started trying around the same time) is pregnant. I am SOOOO happy for her, but at the same time I am so jealous- and feeling REALLY guilty about that. I just keep thinking- will it ever happen to me?? How long can I stand this (and for me it's only been a year). I don't know if I have the strength to go through this every month. I also don't know how to continue to be such close friends with those who are getting pregnant around me. I feel like such an AWFUL person to have these feelings about others. I just needed to vent a bit... thank goodness for this community.

deleted_user 06/27/2007

I know exactly how you feel. All my family and friends got pregnant at the same time. Even my pets got pg. Sometimes I don't know how to congratulate then anymore, Don't get me wrong I am happy for them, but it is hard. We've been trying ttc going on 4 yrs now and GOD gives me the strength not to give up. We all here are going through it or have been throgh it. We are all here for you, to give each other advice, & knowing that we will get through these hard times together. I've had my meltdown and it wasn't easy at all. I'm pretty sure it will happen again. I'm just glad for this site that
I am able to talk to someone who knows.

Babywishes 06/27/2007

You are NOT an awful person. We have all felt those feelings. I am so sorry for your pain, & I hope your dreams come true soon.

honeyb11277 06/27/2007

I too know how you feel and I hate being soo envious about others getting pregnant and then feel even worse because I feel soo guilty..
You do find strength you have never known you have when you are TTC.

(((HUGS))))

deleted_user 06/27/2007

I agree with theses other ladies--it is completely normal to be experiencing your own combination of emotions. And as far as the envy is concerned, I'm right there with you. It is an ugly thing to admit, I know, but it's human and normal considering the circumstances. My best friend has had two miscarriages and then a third successful pregnancy, carried to term, and her secon dborn is now three months old...all while I'm still trying. I'm so happy for her, but also so sad for myself.

kimbochi 06/27/2007

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for your support ladies. After a few good cries, I am back to my "stronger" self!! Your thoughts inspire me, I am so glad I found this site! You are right about getting stronger through all of this. I will keep you posted after my lap tomorrow. Please cross your fingers for me that I will find some answers and solutions to my "spotting" and infertility issues.

deleted_user 06/27/2007

I agree with everybody else.Sometimes it feels like you just can't take any more.My best friend is pregnant right now and is due July 20 and it's been really hard for me to deal with.I'M SO HAPPY FOR HER...BUT REALLY SAD FOR ME!!!Hang in there sweety!I'm here if you need someone to talk too!

deleted_user 06/27/2007

Because the pain of not being able to have a child isn't bad enough, we have to feel guilty about wanting what others have to boot. Before we started trying, I never thought I would feel this way, but here I am, angry, bitter, jealous and feeling guilty about feeling that way. You're not alone.

deleted_user 06/28/2007

I am totally with you honey. you are going through something i experienced about 2 years ago. However once the meltdown ends....and I promise you it will, you become a little more rationalised about it. seeing my beautiful new neices and nephews is still painful but they also warm my heart. I can assure you that the jealous feelings are normal and so is the imense guilt you feel. The first year is the hardest and although you will always feel the twinge you will begin to understand why and accept that it is totally understandable to feel this way. I hope this has gone some way to help and if you want to talk im here.

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