Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
i have been dealing with infertility for over 5 years now and when i first found out that i would not be able to become pg naturally i became incredibly jealous of those who could become pg so easily and continuously bragged about their kids. i let the jealousy take over me and began to shut out people who were pg from my life. i also started to hate them, wouldnt talk to them, and would have nothing to do with their children. it took me over 2 years to get over this and finally accept the fact that having a child would mean that i would have to work very hard for it and that god has other plans for me. i was finally able to get over my jeolousy and started looking into adoption and fostercare. pretty soon i realized that that is what i was meant to do in my life and if i were able to become pg easily then i would have missed the opportunity to provide a loving home for all of the children we have had. i have decided to do ivf because of the fact that my husbands benifits changed and we are able to have infertility benifits so we decided to give the fertility treatments one more try since we now have the resources to afford it again. the thing that bothers me though is that i have read some of the post on here about people who have had or currently have jealousy and resentment twards people who are pg and it bothers me that i may be treated with jealousy and resentment once i become pg. maybe not by you people at these boards because you know of the long journey that i have had to go through and the difficulty and heartache that i have had to endure but by others who may not know how long it took me to finally get to this point and finaly have a baby. i worry about being judged as harshly as i have judged others in the past.
I have suffered from infertility for 2 1/2 years and am in my 2ww from IVF. I understand the pain that not being able to get pregnant brings. However, sometimes I read posts on here and the same ladies that I feel so much love and support from I also feel are jealous and selfish whenever it comes to someone getting pregnant.
Just because we are having a problem conceiving does not mean that the rest of our family and friends are going to put their lives on hold and not have babies until we finally get pregnant. It is unfair of us to even assume or wish that they would do this.
I am not saying that it does not hurt a little when someone close to me gets pregnant, but the joy I feel for that person is much greater than any hurt or jealousy that I may feel.
I feel like some ladies on here are having such a pity party when they find out someone is pregnant. It is usually directed at someone in their personal life, not on DS. Women are always supportive of the DS ladies and their BFP. The fact is that we are having problems getting pregnant, we have to come to terms with that and deal with it. We can not continue to skip out on baby showers or not go see our friends new babies because it just hurts..we have to be strong and be there for our friends and family. Once we get pregnant, how are we going to feel when people dont show up to help us celebrate because we have skipped out on all their pregnancy moments. We have to quit letting infertility makes us the victims. Our friends are not having babies to hurt us.
I look at infertility as a disease. Ive never seen a friend or family member with cancer not come to Christmas with their family because this might be the last year and they are jealous that everyone else will probably have one next year. Or a cancer patient that does not want to see their friends get a clean bill of health because they are having to go in for chemo 3 times a week and feel like crap all the time.
I pray that each of us get BFP very soon, and those of us that have gotten BFP that you all deliver healthy babies and that they finally feel your lives are complete. God has a plan for each of us and we have to make use of the fertility treatments available, because we have to do all we can do to help ourselves. God has given us these resources and it is all part of our journey. However, all the fertility treatments in the world are useless until God decides it is time. God is in control but that doesnt mean we are not all hurt when we find out once again that we are not pregnant.
Ok, sorry I got up on my soapbox ladies, I have never done that on here before. Maybe it is the prometrium and maybe it is the fact that today is my 30th birthday and I dont like birthdays. ? However, Ive felt a lot of these things when reading other posts and have just tried to understand and not open my big mouth.
All this stuff being said, each of you has been a great support system and I could not deal with all the infertility treatments and let downs without each of you!!