Infertility Support Group
In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.
I want to know how everyone moves on after BFN. I have done 3 IUIs and just did first IVF. AF came today before I even got a chance to go to Doctors for blood test. I am taking it really hard and don't know how to move on I with work ect. To make matters worse, found out last week my good friend is 4 months pregnant that I work with. Any help would be appreciated or any stories of how to get o that next step. It feels like it is never gonna happen!
We tried 13 months (naturally) before we got a BFP. I would get frustrated each time AF showed up, would cry a little but usually move on by the end of the day. We miscarried at 13 months and have been trying again for 4 months. Now when AF shows up, I'm a wreck, an absolute hysterical disaster. I find that if I let myself have my meltdown then I am able to pick myself up and get on with my day. I know that isn't practical at work, but I would recommend letting yourself acknowledge it when you have a chance. Hold it together until you can let go.
Then after I've had my meltdown, I find a project to work on. It might be cleaning the house, a craft project, exercising. Something to make me feel better, like I've accomplished something. Something, anything to show that I still have fight. I'm a fighter and I'm gonna fight this thing.
And to be honest it's an on again, off again battle. Sometimes I break down multiple times during a AF, only to fight my way back.
And I try to find things to do that I enjoy, maybe have a drink that I couldn't have during my 2ww. Watch a cute tv show. Good luck, this isn't an easy road but you'll make it.
-Take time to grieve your loss... whether it's the loss of a child, or the loss of a dream.
-At work focus on the job at hand. If you have to act like a robot, be a robot. Just do what it takes to get the job done.
-If you don't feel like interacting with others, then don't, or at least limit contact with certain people until you're feeling stronger.
-Share and talk with others ... here on DS or people who understand (maybe a face to face support group will help as well).
-Make a daily gratitude list of things you're grateful for (your spouse, the ability to walk, see, the sunshine, the beautiful flowers in your back yard etc.)
-Pamper yourself---get that hair cut or pedicure.
-Find a new project you can focus your energies on.
Hope this helps.. wishing you peace.