Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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helplesshusband
helplesshusband

My wife and I have been dealing with unexplained infertility for over four years now. We just did our second round of iui without success. Her Hsg was completely normal and there has been no sign of endo or pcos All of my counts are all normal. There is no fertility clinic in our area so we have been using our normal OB who has experience and success with infertility treatments. When we did this last iui he said that if it doesn't work he will have to refer us to a clinic three hours away to look at trying ivf. My question to all of you ladies that have been going through the same thing is what can I do for my wife? I feel helpless. I don't know what to say or what to do to help her get through the heartbreak. Two of her best friends are currently pregnant as well as my sister-in-law. We have only discussed what we are going through with her mom and one of my good friends. We are very private and don't like other folks knowing what we are going through. What would be the right thing for me to do to help. 

hopegirl13
hopegirl13
Well, it depends a lot on your wife's personality. For me, I just need my husband to listen, hold me, not start brining up all of his problems when I bring up mine (that can be done in a separate conversation, but during it becomes a battle of who has it worse) and try not to say cutesy things like "the best things come to those who wait". It is better to just say "we will get through this together."
fertilitycoach
fertilitycoach
totally been there - feel free to read my story at www.adventuresinbabymaking.com and let me know if you want to talk
Jassmine
Jassmine
Infertility can be also caused by fallopian tube blockage or hydrosalpinx, I suggest you to let your wife to take an examination in the hospital. What's more, female reproductive diseases can be cured by herbal medicine Fuyan Pill http://www.99eyao.com/english/p/p268.htm, which is made in natural herbs, no side effects
lilie315
lilie315
Hi husband, let me say that by you joining this group because you want to help her is so amazing! She will appreciate it very much. Everyone is different, but i'll tell you about me and my husband. We too are very private people, and EVERYONE around us has more than 1 child. No one really knows what we're going through and we're ok with that b/c it's something that in the end WE can only deal with, and whatever decisions we make, the two of us have to be at peace with. We didn't start our journey until we were married for 6 years, and it's not quite been a year since we started yet. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions - at least for me! The meds really mess with my emotions and my hubby is getting the hang of when i need an extra hug, a funny joke, or when he shouldn't say something stupid! I don't think there is only one thing you can do. Maybe just ask her if she wants to talk about this process , how this effects you, (but make sure that doesn't add on more guilt to her plate. We have enough of that.) Reassure her that you love her and that you have many happy things in your life, even kids don't happen.. Remind her that she's not the only one going thru this - you are there with her every step of the way.

Thanks for posting this to remind me of ways that my hubby can help... i'll be thinking of you and your wife and sending you both prayers.
Paleeloca
Paleeloca
After reading your post I can not say how comforting it is to know that my husband is not alone in this and your are a wonderful husband for reaching out..
Unfortunately my husband and I will not have child. After trying to conceive for 2 years the Dr found cancer in my utrus. I had to have a hysterectomy this past Dec. As to the answer for your question, well I don't know your wife but I know as for me I love it when my husband holds me when I cry. He is always patient with my emotional rollercoaster. He don't need to talk just listens. Your,wife just needs to feel that she is not alone. I feel alone all the time. I too have many family members and friends pregnant right now. It is very hard to go through alone. Knowing you are there whenever she needs a hug or a listening ear or to hear you care and love her is a great gesture. Also, go with her to her Dr appt. My husband went with me so ask your wife she would probably,like support and a hand to hold.
I hope the best for your wife and for you..
Good luck..
Any questions you always ask ..
One thing I liked was planning a future that didn't have to have a child in it.
Future seems dark when your dreams are crushed. Finding another dream or something to look forward to helps me get through some moments.
Take care,
Palee