Thank you for sharing! My husband and I tried to conceive on our own for 2 years before we went to the doctor. I used the excuse that I was too young and shouldn't have any issues. It was two years of tracking ovulation with basal temp and having sex with the spike. Nothing...every month. I distinctly remember the time I was a week late. I began to experience some of the early signs of pregnancy. I convinced myself that I pregnant and that the pregnancy test was wrong because I wasn't far enough along. I started my period a couple of days later. I remember sitting in the shower and sobbing my eyes out. I'm talking UGLY crying. It was after that episode that we finally broke down and went to the doctor. What was really frustrating was my OBGYN didn't want to take an aggressive approach because "you don't have anything to worry about because you are still young". I wanted to kick him. In the "no-no" spot. It was another 6 months before he started testing. Like you, I am a planner. We were the "responsible ones" to wait an additional 7 years after our diagnosis to pursue IVF. First cycle should begin soon. I guess in my rambling what I am trying to say is don't feel dumb for waiting. There is nothing to feel dumb about wanting to be financially set for a child. The waiting game is always the worst. You slowly feel like you no longer know what you are waiting for. If you feel like you want to take a more aggressive approach, take it. Talk to your doctor about testing or starting treatments (if needed). Just know that you are in the right place for support. You are never alone!

Thank you for your response. I don't think, no, I KNOW I am not mentally strong enough to go through IVF. I have heard so many horror stories and I just don't think we can afford it. All you ladies who go through IVF are so strong!!!

I am doing 100% holistic ways to better my eggs and regulate my period. I have really been trying the natural way for 2 months and I have to say, what a difference it has made. Being on the pill for so long, I wasn't sure if I even ovulated. I went months before trying the OPK's because I was so scared of the results. My husband doesn't seem to understand the pressure and disappointment I go through EVERY MONTH. But anyway, when I starting to track my ovulation, the test would show a surge around day 19-20, way too late in the month. Now, just this morning...I have a surge and its day 14!!! I contribute this to Pregnitude!!!!! Been on it one month and I show ovulation 5 days sooner!! I do recommend this, highly!!! Plus I take CoQ10 and walk 30-40 mins every day. Changed my diet to high protein and very low carbs. I tell you what, I may not be able to get pregnant but I am in the best health I can remember in a long time LOL

I am a control freak too! And used to be able to getting what I want as long as I work hard enough. It's so hard to deal with this coming from that mind set because I feel like NOTHING I do has any effect. And each month when you get the sad news, there's really nothing more you can do. I think it's hard for men to understand the pressure and disappointment with each month, but it sounds like your husband is staying really positive about everything. I'm sure that is really helpful even if it doesn't seem it - if he were negative and also so sad, it would make you feel worse. (I know it would make me feel worse if my husband was like that, at least.) It sounds like you want to avoid Western medicine to help, which I really admire. I wish I had the patience and strength to do that, but I don't, since I couldn't stand ovulating completely unpredictably and only a few times a year. I hope that works for you and gets you your natural baby and keeps you feeling great!

Kudos to you for holistic approach! I am 100% confident in the fact I would not have the will power to go on a high protein, low carb diet. The last couple of months I have been changing my eating habits, but have found it so difficult working nights. I always find myself trying to snack at the worst times. Recently started trying out different fertility smoothie recipes, upped my water intake, and trying to cut out all sodas, I am afraid I am addicted ;-). Any tips for my late night meals to decrease carbs?

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Diet always suck. I went cold turkey on basically no carbs and boy was it tuff. I went into a small depression ... strange saying that but it’s true. Reason I picked this sort of diet is because I read an article from an IVF dr. He would not perform any procedure on any couple unless the woman would do this diet for 90 days to better her eggs. Come to find out many women didn’t have to have the IVF, they got pregnant naturally. So I thought what the hell, it couldn’t hurt.
As far as snacks, always grab fruit or nuts. Both are filling and are good for you! I know working the night shift is tuff, my husband works nights too.

There are other things you can try if you are not up to IVF. We knew we couldn't afford it. I met my husband when I was 31 and did not marry till I was 36. Tried for a year and a half, nothing. Had a work up, turned out I have PCOS. We did Femara with timed intercourse, I got pregnant the second try. I have a two year old son now and another on the way, also a Femara baby, I will be almost 41 when I deliver. If you haven't been to the doctor, you might think about it, because there are many bus stops before getting to the IVF stop!

Hello dear! I'm so sorry you have troubles with your ttc. Maybe you should visit another specialist? Sometimes it's better to have more than 1 point of view. Maybe other doctor will find the reason of your inability to conceive. Did your husband check his fertility? I think both of you should do medical testing and visit a couple fertility specialists. Maybe there is nothing to worry about and both of you are ok. I wish you to become parents asap!