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Grumpy, not Frumpy

Babywishes
Babywishes
Last month at church I saw a girl I knew who was a student when I substitute taught at the high school a few years ago. She's married now, & pregnant with her first child. She looked so beautiful with her round belly, except for the constant frown on her face. After the meeting, I went to congratulate her & tell her how great she looked. She just said, "Oh, no. I'm so frumpy!" It actually made me sad for her because I realized that she has no idea how lucky she is! Another thing that bothered me is that she shouldn't feel that way because she's model gorgeous anyway. I do feel sorry for people who take their children for granted. I know so many mothers who complain about their kids & think of them as an inconvenience. This is hard to swallow. I KNOW that motherhood isn't easy, but I wouldn't trade it for anything! I wish there were some way to help all mothers understand what a special gift they have!
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They probably won't know until they've "walked a mile in our shoes," as the saying goes. I had a similar situation at work; a co-worker who knows what I'm going through just recently had her baby, but while she was pregnant, she did nothing but complain about how fat she felt, how bloated she was, how she was retaining water, and how her ankles were swollen. I'd give anything to feel that way, and I'm sure all the other ladies here would, as well! Believe me when I say I will not complain one bit when I finally do get pg - bring on the morning sickness, the fat days, all of it! :)
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Girl I know what you mean. My co-worker took her so long to get pg. She finally had her 1st @ 27 yrs. and 4 months later she is now blessed with her 2nd. She complains so much and how the baby moves inside her that keeps her up. I WANT that feeling so bad. Thats why I am not gonna complain one bit when I get blessed.
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I have been on both sides. We had no problem conceiving our son and though I didn't complain all the time, I definitely wasn't thrilled when I couldn't button my pre-pg pants anymore, or when I had to sleep sitting up due to the heartburn, etc. I did take the fact that I was pg for granted b/c I had no idea about infertility or the struggles so many women have getting pg.

However, now that we struggled so hard and went through an emotional rollarcoaster just to get pg again and finally are, I smile every time I go running for the tums, I am so PROUD to show off my expanding belly, and love not being able to fit into pre-og pants! I am so thankful for every little thing this pregnancy now brings.

I know this may sound insane to everyone here, but I am glad to have been on this inferility journey. It opened my eyes and made me look around and think about what others might be going through. And though I might have been that frumpy-grumpy pg girl at one point, I am no more. All we can do is enlighten others to our struggle and make them understand how thankful they should be :o)