I am so sorry to read this. A miscarriage is so devastating and you just have to remember that you are not alone. I know that the next couple of days will be especially hard but keep telling yourself that you will be ok- bc it might not feel like it, but you will be. You are stronger than you think and you need to keep yourself moving forward. Sending you peace and love tonight...

Its ok to grieve. Don't let anyone tell you its not. And if you need a few days to be a non-functioning human being, you should take them. Don't let people make you feel its just self pity. If after you grieve you find you still can't move forward, ask for help to move forward whether its from a friend, a partner or medical professional. But for now, its ok to be sad and angry and disappointed and bereaved. My experience with infertility is that people around you don't want you to feel negative emotions. They try to recommend courses of actions or helpful books. They mean well, but they don't understand. They can't understand. Stuffing emotions in a box and pretending you are ok is exhausting, and unhealthy.

@blbnjf and @JustAmanda thank you for responding and the support. I just feel like I am still in shock and am anticipating already having to deal with every aspect coming next while grieving. My brain is just everywhere. I think if someone tells me i need to be positive i might lose it. Of course I had a dream last night I was still pregnant and woke up just to hysterically cry at 4am. It's just torture. I just keep telling myself it will eventually be a little more manageable to cope with what happened. I hope you are both are doing ok and wishing you the best <3

I'm sorry for your loss. I recently just went through fet too and our first beta hcg was positive but low. We were over the moon and so excited and days later the number went down and it was considered chemical pregnancy. I was so devastated and depressed. It was on September 17th and I'm just taken it one day at a time. The only that got me better is praying and having hope in Jesus. I pray that the lord will give you peace during this difficult time.
This is our second failed ivf after 5 years of ttc. We got pregnant on our own in 2016 but heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks. When this happened, I told God that how much more can I take?
It's okay to grieve because it helps to heal but focus more energy in moving forward and don't stay down for too long. May the lord be with you.

Able18 - I am very sorry for your losses. It is so, so difficult. It gives me comfort knowing you find peace in prayer. Eventually i will get to the point where I will feel better, but right now everything is just dull. I am trying to find comfort in anything but i just feel lost. Wishing and praying for you X

Hi Callie2988, I am very sorry to hear what you have went through recently with your miscarriage. The hardest part would be getting by the day to day, having to fulfil responsibilities and meeting people and friends with whom you cannot share your personal struggles with. I'm glad I chanced upon this website through an article and hopefully, we can can provide one another with encouragement and daily mental strength!
My hubby and I have been trying for almost 4 years now with the help of IVF (FET) and so far have had 2 missed miscarriages (chemical) and 1 blighted ovum miscarriage.
I myself went through a similar experience in December last year with a diagnosed blighted ovum at 11 weeks, with baby not developing properly (I did not get to hear any heartbeat) and was presented with a D&C option by the Doctor. Eventually we opted to take oral medication to induce passing out of the gestational sac at home on new year's eve with the support of my hubby- what a "countdown" we had for 2018. Fast forward to present date. We have used up all frozen embryos from our FET round and it's back to the drawing board again. I feel like I have been living in a state of limbo for the longest time , experiencing living in Cloud 9 whenever we found out we had a positive test, and dragged back down into the pits of despair after finding out the pregnancy yet again cannot continue. It is difficult to remain in an optimistic mindset and always wondering when will be our time to celebrate out loud for sure. Please do not give up trying to conceive and stay strong. There are a lot of women out there going through the same exact struggle and here's to hoping that someday we all get to see the beautiful rainbow after the storm. xoxo

giftformeriel Thank you for responding, and I am very sorry for your loss as well, and that you are down this difficult road, too. Every aspect of infertility is a battle. It's so frustrating not having answers. I am doing so much research and just feel like I want to be tested for everything, I am so tired of hearing everything looks great and perfect, and then all of a sudden things don't work out.

I am very lucky that I do have frozen embryos. We did ICSI and PGS testing, which is another reason i feel something is off with me that is just not being identified. I had a hysteroscopy to fix a complicated septum and remove pollops, four failed medicated IUIs after this. When we were waiting to start IVF is when I got pregnant the first time after two years of infertility, and I miscarried. I am fortunate that IVF egg retrieval was successful. I just am so scared that this could just keep happening. I had a tough recovery after the egg retrieval so I don't even think i could go down that path again.

Hi Leonora_Bear - Thank you for writing here. It has been so difficult functioning day to day at work and in "normal" life after this. it can be exhausting. I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriages and struggles. That is so awful you had to go through that. Isn't it crazy the new experiences you get to have with your husband dealing with all of this? Sometimes we just look at each other and smile when we hear other couples complain about silly stuff. I will be wishing and praying for you both. You deserve to have this, and your beautiful rainbow. Best to you <3