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Feeling Scared and Alone

bbc123
bbc123

Hi All,


I'm new here and needing a place to talk with others going through similar experiences.  I suffer from pretty severe anxiety.  My husband and I began ttc about a 1 1/12 years ago.  Soon after this, I started having some issues with my period.  An ultrasound revealed I had cysts on each of my ovaries, what appeared to be endometriomas.  My obgyn recommended seeing an RE, which just led me to more stress and anxiety. I went to the fertility clinic with the intent to address the endometriomas and wasn't quite prepared for all that got thrown my way.  The doctor is not quite what I was hoping for, not bad, but not providing me quite with the emotional suport that I get from my obgyn.  Instead he'll spend 20 minutes telling me how bad milk is for me.  Maybe that's just how REs are?  He made the recommendation that I proceed with IUI and also schedule out lap surgery, if no success with IUI.  I needed a break from it all, put things on hold, and wanted to try naturally for a little while longer.  It's been several months, and I now am trying to get the courage to go back because I am concerned about the endometriomas and have not yet been officially diagnosed with endometriosis.  I'm not in terrible pain, but I do feel some discomfort around my period.  My mother tries to support me, but says things like "Oh now your just wasting time" or "You know, you don't have to have children if you don't want to" or then there are the conversations about how we should adopt.  I'm not opposed to this, but that's just not where my husband and I are at, at this point.  It's frustrating and hard to explain to someone who isn't experiencing this how you are feeling. Anyhow, sorry, I am just needing to vent some.....  I'm feeling very alone and scared...  and not really sure what I should do next.  Anyone else feeling this way?

DitkaOnDeck
DitkaOnDeck
Is that 11/12 years or 1.5 years? If you have been trying for 1.5 years I completely understand wanting to continue trying naturally a little longer. That being said, I felt so much better once we went through all the fertility testing. Just because you begin seeking answers doesn't mean you need to begin treatment. You can continue to try on your own while also having a fertility workup and you might feel relieved to finally know either way.
bbc123
bbc123
Thanks for your message. That was supposed to be 1.5 yrs. I did do some initial fertility testing and an hsg. Hsg looked okay, other than the endometriomas, which I had already known about. My husband did sperm analysis and that seemed okay. His count was a little on the low side, although we had him tested twice so far at 2 different places, and opinions seem to vary a bit around this. The endometriosis part of this is where things add to my stress level I think. Having surgery can potentially lead further to infertility or it can help. I think it will give me some answers that I don't know right now, but well, it's still surgery and there are some risks. Plus, it seems that women with endometriosis often have to have repeat surgeries. I guess a positive way to look at it is that it is a possible explanation for why we are having trouble trying to conceive. The RE told me that we had maybe a 1% chance of being able to conceive on our own. That in and of itself just kind of made me want to try harder on our own. Trying to stay hopeful, but I don't want to prolong things too long.