Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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lahessler 10/23/2017

Hi all,

I need support, guidance and an ear to listen. I have been TTC for 3 years now. I had a miscarriage after 4 months of trying and a miscarriage after 9 months of trying after that. Since then, I have not had any luck. Every single time I start my period, I have a horrible day and feel as though I cannot go on. I am overweight and I blame it on that constantly. I ovulate, just irregularly. I was just diagnosed with PCOS recently. I just took my 4th and last round of clomid with no luck. I have recently started going to a therapist and made an appointment with a fertility doctor. I feel as though anyone I talk to about it just does not fully understand and I am tired of hearing cliches. My husband is being as supportive as he can. I have had so many tests and they have all come out fine. My husband's semen analysis came back fine. My progesterone levels recently have been 6-7. This is low to me, but they keep saying it means I ovulated. I just do not even know what to think or feel any more. Please help!

TryinginWY 10/23/2017

Infertility is such an isolating experience. Even the most well meaning family and friends may say or do something unintentionally that feels insensitive. I think it is normal to feel like no one truly understands what this feels like, unless they have been there themselves. Everything I've read suggests that the process of infertility has the same emotional impact as the death of a loved one or a cancer diagnosis. So try to give yourself some compassion on those days where you just can't get your head above water. I also think seeing a therapist is hugely beneficial, and really helped me in the beginning! This process can be so hard on your relationship. It is so important to support one another and to figure out what that support looks like. For me, I just need my husband to hold me while I cry,without saying much of anything. Just in that gesture, I feel like he's in it with me. Even though we are sharing this journey, we are experiencing it differently, and that too can feel isolating. Support will look different for each person, and hopefully you guys will figure that out and be able to hold each other up the way you need. Good luck on this difficult journey!

lahessler 10/23/2017

Thank you so much for your response. It hit the nail on the head. It helped reading it. I just joined this support group and am so happy I did. I have felt so alone and like my world is crashing in.

fffFFF 10/25/2017

Hi, I am sorry to know yr story. Not a healthy weight might be the reason why you can't get pregnant. A friend of mine was cycling in Gdansk, and before that she was told to lose weight to start IVF treatment. Good luck xx

judithbeast 10/25/2017

Infertility sucks, bottom line. No one really understands what you're going through unless they have been through it themselves. You are grieving a loss each month you get a BFN but others can't understand how someone can grieve over something that hasn't happened. Support groups help as well as therapy. Personally, I find it helpful to share my infertility journey with others. I find others who have struggles or knew someone who struggled with infertility.

BabyV 10/25/2017

Maybe your blood is not compatible with your husbands blood that’s why you’re having miscarriages.... you should ask?

nelliemicha 10/29/2017

I am sorry you are going through this. I also have PCOS and from what my fertility dr said, women with PCOS make less than ideal eggs. Point was proven to me when I did IVf and had over 30 eggs (with PCOS you can make lots of eggs.) and of them of them most fertilized but died or where not growing correct. We had 3 left in the end. They put me on metformin prior to my ivf cycle. It’s a med for diabetes but Is supposed to help your egg quality I was told. Also, the progesterone level would imply you ovulated but women with PCOS usually have higher male hormones and lower female ones...so maybe your doctor can start you on estrogen? I hope this info that I have taken from my dr helps you! Best of luck!

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