I am thinking of just moving right to donor eggs. My friend went to Spain where the whole thing cost 15k. She is 40 and got preggers right away. She went to the top clinic where they do extensive screening of the donors-I am just so sick of planning my life around IVF. My DH kind of pissed me off tonight when he asked me if my pregnant friend had met "the mother" I was like- you mean, "the DONOR??" He said, yes, you know what I meant but that really bothered me as i have always been afraid that if we did DE then he would somehow feel it was more "his" then mine. Im sorry but to me the "mother" is the not the donor but it just gave me an insight into his psyche that bothered me. I may, as usual, be overreacting and reading too much into things but it bummed me out. I just feel like, how many more times can I spend 15k (which I dont have) put my body thru this for a 30 per cent chance of success?? I wish it was an easy decision. As I said, a huge part of me is like- ok Ive had enough after 2 failed ivfs. My work is finally getting back on track-which gives me an identity and we are scheduled to do IVF again in April-just found out my UK clients will be here then-the ones I just got back after almost losing due to my TTC breakdown but of course, I have elevated FSH and am 39 so waiting is not an option- it just feels like ENOUGH. I am inexplicably angry with DH right now as well- I just feel like I want off this ride. Any thoughts on DE? I realize its such a personal subject so I would welcome any personal messages as well.
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