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Devastated 2nd FET could be a failure again

Jash
Jash

Iam just feeling really down as I took my HPT and it was a negative in the morning . Iam scheduled for my beta blood draw today which is 11 days post by 5-day transfer . I wanted to be prepared as the last IVF the nurse asked me to take the HPT before I gave the blood draw and it was negative and my beta was BFN . It's been really hard as I transferred 2 embryos , have done the uterine scratching , acupuncture and not having a single symptom gave me a gut feeling this could be a bad cycle again . Iam just so tired and drained and have been weeping from yesterday . I don't know what's next ..But iam thinking of taking a break and have to attend my brother in law's wedding in June which is going to be so hard to face when am so unhappy .There are so many thoughts going in my head which does not allow me to concentrate on my work , doubts on clinics and doctors and what not . I hope I can pick myself up and move but am just drained .

Jash
Jash
I truly hope that this time it's a success for you from the bottom of my heart ! I think its this week which will be horrible and I hope to pick myself again after taking a break but my mind is not in the right state today for sure . I still haven't decided how many more to go but just the thought of 2ww kills me. Thanks for listening to me ....
Jash
Jash
I just got the confirmation that my beta HCG is negative.
michie97
michie97
I am so sorry you are going through this, I really feel for you this process is just so hard. I've having a hard time too, I just started a new cycle of IVF, and if this doesn't work I am planning to take a break, and review everything. Keep you head up!
Jash
Jash
I really hope your IVF cycle works michie97 , is this your first try ? Iam planning to take a break but it's more really for the wedding , am.just having a lot of confusing or probably it's just my grieving day today.
michie97
michie97
This will be my second IVF cycle, I don't think we will try another after this one because of the expense. I may go back to IUI but one step at a time. I hope you get through your grieving time and try to keep hope. I understand the confusion its just so difficult the last time I was so crushed but my husband has been so great.
Jash
Jash
I wish you the very best in your second cycle . Iam yet to meet my doctor but am sure I'll have a series of tests and right now I just want the energy to go through the same .
DC1430
DC1430
I am so sorry to hear about another negative. I know it's difficult & truly is an emotional roller coaster. I am also thinking of taking a break. I have done 6 transfers with the last 2 turning into chemical pregnancy's. I took 3 blood tests this last time & they kept rising appropriately. Just found out today that we lost the 2 embryos. It is devestating & seems to get more difficult. I wish you the best & try to keep being hopeful. If you ever need to talk I am here.
Jash
Jash
Iam so sorry to hear about that Dc1430, it is definitely hard . Iam still grieving and when I reflect everything happens for a reason but it's hard to accept. I wish you more strength for a successful pregnancy. Did the doctors try a different protocol? Do you have embies out there ? I speak to my doctor this week but this time but have a strong feeling I will need to go through ERA and PGD screening .