Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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theletter12 06/15/2008

I'm a bit needy right now...and if all I can get are a few smile hugs from a virtual reality then so be it. Everything about this is so hard with the lack of understanding from everyone in our family and friends. It is so hard to get through each day. I'm at the stage in our infertility journey where I am mourning for the children we will never have. No one gets it or even tries. I am tired of hoping each month. Tired of trying. Tired of seeing if I'm ovulating. Tired of putting a pillow under my butt. Tired of having sex for the purpose of conceiving and never conceiving. I'm tired of hearing and having to deal with everyone else being pregnant and I'm not and probably never will be for some unknown wacko reason. Everything is just so hard. I'm tired of having 2 bedrooms that were supposed to have kids in them being empty of any resemblance to a child's room. Ugh...

deleted_user 06/15/2008

I am so sorry. I have been in that same state. It really sucks. Let yourslef grieve that's the only way to get throuh it. It will be okay...I have been there so many times!! I will be praying for you.

deleted_user 06/15/2008

So understand your heartache. I am so glad these women are hear...i don't know what I would have done without them. I am sending you a big hug and lots of baby dust. Across from the master is our "baby rrom". Talk about a gut ache seeing that 5 times a day. I turned it into a play room for the nieces until we finally get a baby. Hang in there sweetie and please know we all understand here.

deleted_user 06/16/2008

I hear you sister - it took us many years, lots of drugs, plenty of IUIs and one IVF to get pregnant at 38. Sending you big hugs and hope.

deleted_user 06/16/2008

You are not alone. I've felt that way so many times. It's really depressing- It really really sucks to feel that way. BUT it doesn't mean it won't happen for you. I was at it for years and and felt hopeless even after losing both of my tubes and then it took IVF to make it work.

You'll get through it somehow. Good luck and hope you fill those rooms up with love.

lina2008 06/16/2008

So sorry to hear you are having such a hard time at the moment. Sometimes it really feels that life can be so unfair. Keep your chin up and if all else fails, we are always here for you

deleted_user 06/16/2008

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I know exactly what you mean and I would hug you right now if I could. I have been going through the same thing for two years now and now that we are told that it will never be possible withouth IVF my heart just aches. I know that we will never be able to afford it on our own so the child I always dreamed of and the names we have already picked out may never be something real. I truly am sorry. Lots of hugs..Alicia

deleted_user 06/16/2008

i'm sorry your having a hard time right now. We all go through this. God bless hope you feel better soon.

LoMac 06/16/2008

Im sorry youre having such a hard time, I noticed you lived in PA, I know its a big state but hopefully a local chapters will be near by. Resolve has Peer Group Meetings where woman like us can meet and talk and get the support we often lack in the friends and family around us, not due to they want to try but lack of understand what we really are going through. Ive been going to one for about a year now and have found it tremendously helpful. Being here is great but there something about face to face that can be wonderful.
Eastern Pennsylvania: Northeast Region of RESOLVE
northeast.resolve.org
Western Pennsylvania: Great Lakes Region of RESOLVE
greatlakes.resolve.org

deleted_user 06/16/2008

I am sorry hun! IF just sucks doesn't it. We all understand what you are going though and are here for you. BIG HUGS!!!

deleted_user 06/16/2008

I know how you feel, I had that same feeling and I was in the same situation in regards to having two empty rooms awaiting the arrival of children in my home and looking at the walls with ideas of painting it pink or blue. Trust me your not alone but right now it's okay to vent but don't let it take you down. Just get back up and try it without pressure from people (ignore them) and without pressure from seeing other babies just keep going and don't look back. and start thinking positive and keep that faith in you at all times.... I send you a warm hug...

deleted_user 06/16/2008

I hear ya! You have come to the right place! I understand how lonley things can get in a home with no children and how it feels to watch everyone around you have babies while you have to grin and bear it! The negative pregnancy test are also tough! I understand!

deleted_user 06/16/2008

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this hard part in your life!! It sucks and is so hard for each and every one of us! Hang in there you have us and we will never let you feel alone!! Keep your chin up and you will get through this! It will get better! I have been there and came through on the other side with a better outlook on the whole thing!

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