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sombermood
sombermood

I'm feeling lost. A few months I found out I was not able to conceive. I was shocked, I've never had an abnormal pap or anything so this is confusing to me. Doctor said ivf is my only option based on my age range. He immediately gave me my prep plan. I have so many questions but I'm hesitant to ask. I feel foolish. I had a breakdown in his office and he was not very warm or consoling towards me. Not only did his office spell my name wrong on my chart but they sent a letter with my results to my primary OBGYN after I asked them not to. I'm not sure why this bothers me, it seems minor now that I'm reading it back to myself but if they are this careless about small things, what if they are careless with my ivf treatment. I'm also nervous about taking BC. I've had bad experiences in the past and I've tried several different brands but the nurse said it's necessary to take them. Has anyone heard of natural supplements to stimulate hormones? Why do I have to take BC? If I don't feel comfortable with my doctor does it matter? Does getting a 2nd opinion change anything? I'm just confused!

ATC_Alli
ATC_Alli
Leave this doc, find another! Yes it matters, they need to be fighting for you to get pregnant, and if you are getting the vibes that they don't care now you'll never feel right about it, and I think the mental aspect is very important in the journey you're about to undergo. I'm so sorry that you were not treated how you should have been. I wasted a whole year with a doc who didn't seem to care for me or getting me pregnant and leaving her has made me feel a small part of gaining control back in this journey. I would call around and schedule a 2nd opinion tomorrow, maybe even schedule 2 at different places so if the 2nd one still doesn't feel right then you have a 3rd on standby. Please bring these questions to your new doc, if you don't feel comfortable enough asking then you know you haven't found the right doc yet! Good luck to you
blbnjf
blbnjf
Definitely find a new dr! This is a hard process to go through and you need to feel like you and you dr are a team. Trust your instinct. Once you find a dr you are happy with, you will notice the difference right away. I was so happy once I found the right dr for me and I always said that even if she was not able to successfully get me pregnant that I would still completely trust that she did everything in her power to help me. You don't deserve to be going through IF, but you do deserve to have a compassionate dr that will help you. :)
mrsmooney826
mrsmooney826
You absolutely need to find a new doctor! I did half way through my journey and it was the BEST decision! I did my first IVF with no birth control at all. I did use regular stim meds, but no BC and it worked. Please seek out a team of doctors that makes you feel comfortable!! You need all the mental support along with the medical expertise!!!
Bellamamma
Bellamamma
I'm totally support the advice that everyone else is giving you. I went through 5 failed IUIs with our first RE and he was gearing us up for IVF but we ended up switching. Nothing as overt as the issues with your RE, but it just wasn't the right fit. Switching meant that we were going to lose another cycle, which I really didn't want to do but now I only wish that we had done it sooner. We are better aligned ideologically, we get better service, and they have a better communication system. You deserve to be heard and supported by your doctor and their team. Once you're in a supportive environment you will feel so much better. Good luck!
YvonneKB
YvonneKB
You definitely have to feel comfortable and confident in your RE. I had one with whom I did 2 IUI cycles and 2 IVF cycles and it was always stressful in her office. I switched to another RE and it was so calming for me, I wound up doing three more IVF cycles before I was ultimately successful but I'm so glad I switched REs. Good luck to you!
Blossom
Blossom
Hi a second option sounds good to me. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I am 41 and my Dr is currently trying me on menopur injections and iui. I just went through my first round. It was not so bad very little to no side effects. This could be an option for you. They also had me taking some supplements to help with egg health. Prenatal vitamins, coqu10 300mg, vitamin D3 200mg, and DHA 75mg daily for all these. If I get prego then stop all but the prenatal. Hope this helps. And I was told by an Dr years ago I could not get pregnant with out IVF. 15 years later I got pregnant on my own but miscarry at 10 weeks. Only my new Dr said this could work for me and was not sure why other tests and options were never offered to me years ago? I was young and just belived the Dr then and could not afford IVF. So fight for your self before you just give in. On the up side I would never have adopted my amzing daughter if I had got pregnant all those years ago so for that I am thankful.
sombermood
sombermood
Thank you all for the supportive advice/comments. I think deep in my heart I know I should change doctors I just needed to hear it from other sources. I'm 4o so I feel like I'm running out of time. I already have very low egg reserve and as time passes it only decreases. I just don't understand why others my age are able to conceive with no problem but I can't. As each day passes I feel that I'm able to think a bit clearer and I get a little stronger with advocating for myself. I just really hate to start all over searching for doctors. I'm wondering if there are any natural supplements that increase egg reserve and also increase egg health?