Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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Kumi007 10/06/2018

I just had my second failed FET. But with this one, I think I was pregnant if just for a few days. My HCG was elavated but not enough to be sure I was pregnant so they tested me again and it dropped, so it is now negative. Leading up to this news I was 90% sure I was pregnant (having been blessed with one child prior). My body was experiencing symptoms of pregnancy and I was starting to bond with the embryo or my idea of this baby. Dr says it could have been a “chemical pregnancy” where my body was tricked to produce HCG due to the other meds I was taking. I think it could have took... but then didn’t. I am at a loss of how the distinction will help me cope. Somehow I knew she was there, and then she was gone. I wonder if she was ever really with me? I feel like I lost a child even though I only knew her for two weeks. It hurts deeply and yet seems trivial next to any stories of miscarriage. I think I am just looking for anyone else who knows about this or some validation that it was real.

Able18 10/06/2018

This is my story. I just had a second failed fet and it was chemical pregnancy. My hcg was positive but the number was low and I was tested again two days later and it dropped. I was devastated and I'm still taking it one day at a time. I bonded with the baby and I got faint positive on hpt and I was the happiest ever. We have been trying for 5 years and had miscarriage almost two years ago cos we got pregnant on our own. We had first fet last year and it was Bfn but this second one was chemical. Its really hard to deal with the pain. I pray God will heal your pain and help you conceive. Do you have any frozen left? We have some left but unsure if to proceed, the pain is too much.

Callie2988 10/09/2018

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Please don't be so hard on yourself for how you are feeling. It's so difficult going through this and you are allowed to mourn, no matter what your situation is. I had a similar experience only it was right before I was going to start IVF I got my first ever positive; I was very late but had held off on testing. I went in for bloodwork (which would have been around the 5 week mark) and got a call that it was a "confirmed pregnancy". When I went back in two days later my HCG dropped. They classified it as a biochemical pregnancy. So yes, i know my baby was there but was just lost so early. I think too depending on what meds you are on, it would be really strange for it to produce HCG if that makes sense. It was crushing, and I too let those feelings creep in of feeling guilty for being so sad, but had to let it go because it is awful. I had my first FET in August and learned my baby's heart beat had stopped at my 8 week scan. I'm devastated. Just know you're not alone and know it's ok not to know how to handle it, but you have people here. One day at a time is how I am living. Big hugs XX

Kumi007 10/10/2018

Thank you for your replies. I hate that others have had to go through this yet it helps to not be alone. One day at a time is a good thought. It hits me with sorrow when I least expect it. We are trying to pull together as a family and make it to a brighter day.

fffFFF 10/11/2018

Hi, I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately a woman might experience cp or ms during 1st trimester without any reasons. However, in case of 3 and more cps it is recommended seeing a doc to find out more. There are various reasons why cp might happen such as genetics, poor sperm quality, immune issues and others. In case genetics is the issue, you might consider undergoing IVF PGS NGS. Good luck with yr journey

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