Have either of you had any testing done to see if there is a fixable issue? I have several women in my life that I'm close to that are pregnant, now that they are starting to show I want to hermit myself to my house more and more, its impossibly tough so keep the faith up! Hugs to you

Wow, I'm sorry your family is being so ridiculous and selfish that they can't see your pain and suffering through all of this. As if dealing with the struggle and the shame/guilt of feeling jealous isn't enough they are actually going to accuse you of it. Stay strong!! You can come here and vent anytime!

Hi I am new I need people to talk to that will understand as I feel very bitter and upset most of the time. We have been trying for 2 years and no luck at all..

I completely understand the bitterness. Whether you are still trying or have had to stop, other people finding the greatest happiness in your greatest source of pain is like a constant dagger in your heart. Tell the people involved (including your husband) that you wish them all the happiness in the world (even if you secretly don't right now) but you are dealing with something extremely emotionally traumatic and you cannot be there to emotionally support them, and you hope they will understand. If they don't, tell them you are sorry they do not understand, you hope someday they will, and that someday you can be there for them although you can't right now. Let that be the end of the conversation. You may lose friendships, you may be shunned by family. But you cannot take care of others without first taking care of you.

I can sympathize, you should tell them very clearly that you're not in a good place for this right now. And if they cannot understand that, simply distance yourself as to not allow them in your space. Infertility is, by all accounts possibly the most devastating bad luck hand you can get. As a woman your body is made for reproduction but sometimes the universe just doesn't provide. But do start with testing, make a checklist in order. Start with your hormone drugs; screenings for your egg counts and make sure you control your stress. It's not a success only journey, but I wish you the best.

I'm sorry your family isn't understanding. I may not be throwing a baby shower but on of my friends told me she is pregnant a week ago.. My heart sank down and had to act very happy for her. My hubby and tried for 2 Yrs.. your feelings are valid and I under why it is hard

I just came home from work, shut all of my windows so i dont have to hear anyone's children playing outside, and cried into a pillow after today's phone call with my fertility doctor. My s.o. hasn't spoken to me in three days except to tell me he's mad at me for not helping him with his resume (he's almost 50) and my resentment towards him and the world is so great I think I might quit my job and drive an RV around the country or buy a one way ticket to southeast Asia. I regret on a daily basis every decision I have made in my life that has gotten me to middle age, childless, and having to behave civilly when all I want to do is throw a tantrum and be self indulgent. Depressed doesn't even begin to cover it! You need to do whatever will keep you sane. I'm avoiding visiting my new nephew (*we weren't even trying! Ugh, i cant believe we're pregnant again?!") Because of my inability to hide my tears. You'll meet him or her someday, and your husband needs to tread lightly.

It breaks my heart that your family including your husband doesn't understand. It infuriated me that my husband didn't understand the heartbreak of getting my period every month. He'd try to be upbeat about it and it made it worse. Your feelings are valid and real. I personally could not bring myself to plan a baby shower or be at the hospital when the baby is born. You're already going through so much emotionally and physically why is it frowned upon to make healthy boundaries for yourself? My heart goes out to you.