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BFN again

lina2008
lina2008
I'm sick to death of writing these words... BFN

its been almost 5 years ttc, 3 IVF's and one miscarriage later and still empty handed. when will it be my turn! will I ever be a mother!

my dh's cousin is due to give birth in a couple of weeks, she tried for just 3 months! 3 f'nig months and she gets to have a perfectly healthy little baby, while I have tried for all this long years, gone through IVF only to loose my precious baby!

the world is not fair... life is not fair
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry. You are right, it's just not fair and as far as I can see there is not a good reason for why we have to endure this. Much love and hugs to you during this difficult time.
SharynMarie
SharynMarie
BFN is the worst month after month, treatment after treatment. I can't even count the babies that have been born since we have started trying, gone through miscarriages, and come up empty handed. I can't imagine going through 3 failed IVF's. :-(
Infertility is so hard. Sorry for your recent loss, and I hope you find one little way to lift your spirits this weekend. Prayers for you!
FNP
FNP
You are right it is SOO unfair how some get pregnant SOO easy and others struggle on and on. Will be praying for you to have a moment of peace this weekend. HUGS
Trying4ever
Trying4ever
I agree. I am so effing sick of writing BFN...It's like it's embedded into my vocabulary and I don't know any other term.

It really is NOT fair. But I know that when we finally get our BFPs and it sticks that we will be awesome parents and spoil the heck outta our kid or kids!!

Keep praying and don't lose hope.
wackymacky
wackymacky
No one said life is FAIR....so we must keep pushing forward...

Don't worry, I have some of the pitts too!!!
Many hugs to everyone!!!....

Tina Marie
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel your pain my friend... I had reason to be so hopeful this month, I thought it would be different after trying some alternative therapies and AF was even a couple of days late (but I was too nervous to do an HPT, because I'm so tired of disappointments).
Then sure enough, I felt things brewing inside last night, and this morning I awoke with AF. I was beyond disappointed, because everything seemed right this time 'round, like the stars were aligned :( I can't help but feel defective! Sure is unfair...

It's so true what you said about others getting preggers so easily, and what about that TV show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant"--I hate to watch it, but I'm drawn to it anyway. A woman who was on the pill, still got pregnant, because of the 1% chance of failure. Wow, it drives me squirrely.

All we can do is believe, hope, and think positive, visualize things going the way we want them to, and all will fall into place. Our day will come!! :-)

Hang in there...
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