I understand exactly how you feel. I have had the same type of situation happen to me and I felt so out of control, angry and sad. I was so pissed that it came so easy to others and then there was their well meaning but idiotic statements to me. It really had nothing to do with them or their pregnancy - yes their news set me off - but it all came back to what my body wasn't able to do. It was a huge reminder of how bad my situation was - how it was basically impossible for me. I avoided my pregnant friends and I didn't worry about it, I couldn't handle it. All I can really say is other people who haven't been through it don't get it. Others can say they are sorry for you, sorry that you are struggling, etc. but they don't really get it. Everyone here in this group gets it so you can talk to us and vent here. Sometimes distancing ourselves from others is the healthy thing to do, and that's ok.
I hope you feel better soon. Take care of yourself first.

I have a couple situations similar to yours. My friend is due any day now with her 4th....all conceived while we've been trying. None were planned. The other was a very dear friend who had a baby exactly one week after we lost our daughter. In both situations there was jealousy on my part and both were handled differently by the friend.

The friend who is due any day has been particularly obnoxious with this pregnancy and I needed to take a step back from that relationship. (There were other issues between us having nothing to do with IF, so it was a necessary break that needed to happen). When I attempted to talk to her about my feelings, she was very rude and literally said "You either need to get pregnant or shut up about it already." I don't talk to her as often and feel a lot less stress in my life because of it. It was sad in the beginning because we had been such great friends for many, many years and she had been supportive up until the last year. However, it is what it is now.

The other friend who had a baby was incredibly understanding and sensitive towards me. I explained to her that I was very happy she had a healthy baby, but it was too much for me to get pictures from her all the time. We talked about what other things were triggers for me and she totally understood. It actually made our relationship stronger and I now gladly open emails from her with pictures of her kids.

So I guess it all depends on the type of friend you have, and you may not find out until you talk to her about it. First you need to take some time to yourself to get a grasp on why you're jealous and what your triggers are, then you'll be able to talk to your friend honestly without coming off as a bitch. She'll never "get it" but she can at least make an attempt to not trigger you. Hopefully she will be understanding and respect your feelings and it will make your friendship even stronger.

All of this sucks, btw. ((HUGS))

During the last six years I've been ttc, I've seen both sisters and both SIL have children. That's 7 babies! All I can say is that it is ok to be angry and selfish right now. You don't need to deal with pregnant women if you don't want to. I've found that honesty is the best policy. I've started to just tell people "I can't be around pregnant women. Seeing them makes me sad, bitter, angry and even jealous. I don't want to upset anyone so it's better that I just avoid the subject."

It sounds really harsh, but once you say it, you just feel good about standing up for yourself. I've said it to many people, when it's said at the right time and manner most people understand. If she is a good friend, she probably already knows how your feeling already and is just waiting for you to open up about it so you can find a way to get past it..

That's how I've gotten through seeing 7 babies being born in the past 6 years.