Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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MomHopes 03/30/2010

Just venting here....I just saw an update on facebook that a friend is having her second baby. They weren't even thinking about kids when I had my first miscarriage almost 4 years ago. Throughout the time we have been TTC they will now have TWO kids before we even have ONE!! UGGGG...I am happy for them but I can't help being jealous, thinking life is unfair and just incredibly frustrated!!! I know it is taking us forever but it really puts it into perspective when people start having multiple children during the same amount of time we can't have any! Every time I see stuff like this I swear I'm going to quit fb cuz it just makes me so upset!

CarrieDawn 03/30/2010

I know how you feel. My BIL and his fiance weren't even considering kids yet when we were first trying. They now have 3, 2 of them being super close to the ages 2 of my kids would've been had I not miscarried. It's tough.

deleted_user 03/30/2010

Ughh... Tell me about it. My best friend is due in May with her 4th, and shes younger than me! (Plus currently going through a divorce and pg with her boyfriend of 8 months)

deleted_user 03/31/2010

I hear ya. My cousin and I were kidding around a few years ago who would get prego first. She had baby #2 last year....

BUT, we have to stay positive because it really doesn't do us any good to focus on things we absolutely no control over. Our bodies and mental mind set need to remain positive. Stress and doom and gloom won't help. It's ok to have those down days. It's unavoidable really but just don't let it linger.

Wishing you the best and lots of baby dust!!! :)

heregoesnothing 03/31/2010

My sister in law is coming to visit this weekend, pregnant with number 3! Worse of all... there's a chance they might try to adopt for baby number 4! IMAGINE if she gets #4 before I even have the chance to get number 1! I will seriously injure someone! Plus, they're in GREAT financial situation, so it's not like they'll have to 'save up' or anything! What a bitch!

bobkat, now I've said it, now I'm letting go of it! You're right! positive, positive...

Hopeful41 03/31/2010

My friend is at the hospital now giving birth to her twin boys. I'm jealous but I know that she went through her own infertility story so at least she has been where I am and understands how I feel.

deleted_user 03/31/2010

Urrrgh! I know exactly how you feel. It's so tough! I avoid facebook like the plague because I find it too upsetting.

deleted_user 04/01/2010

I quit facebook about two months ago. One of the best and smartest choices I have made. It was daily torture for me so, that was it! I missed it terribly the first week, second week a little less, now I wonder why I ever really wanted to be on there in the first place. I don't really miss it at all.

SharynMarie 04/02/2010

FB pregnancy crap is not cool. I do not care that you are dilated xx centimeters about to have your 2nd baby!

deleted_user 04/02/2010

I totally and completely am with you. I've also found via FB that friends from high school and college tried for like 2 seconds to have a baby, and bam, 9 months later had healthy infants. FB is evil sometimes.... especially for those of us going through IF or suffering miscarriages.

deleted_user 04/02/2010

I'm with you...I've gone through phases where I've decided to quit F.B. because it seemed like EVERY DAY another one of my 'friends' was sharing their pregnant...UGH. I've even hidden a few of them from my newsfeed, just because I couldn't take the constant updates.

Hang in there...I think all of us here are in the same boat with you.

deleted_user 04/03/2010

I know exactly how you feel! My little sis gave birth last night at 10:00p.m. to a beautiful 8lb 4 oz baby girl. And this was her second child in two and a half years! She got pregnant right before my fertility stuff got brought to light. Of course I went to the hospital and held her, but a piece of my heart broke off and I cried nearly all night last night. It is so hard seeing someone close to you have children so easily and you are fighting to no end just to have one healthy baby.

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