No you are not crazy. I spent 7 heart breaking years TTC and never a pregnancy. IVF was not something I wanted to do or could afford to do. A good book I read - that has lots of women's stories that are going through the same things as you is "Never to be a Mother" by Linda Hunt Anton ... it felt good to know about people who are in the same world as you. It is agonizing and my heart goes out to you.

Totally not crazy. I agree that people who aren't or haven't gone thru it just don't get it. They think just showing a picture isn't a big deal, and inviting you to their shower and stuff is totally fine. (Not that we want to always be left out either, but there's a line somewhere.) We want to be strong for our husbands/partners but it's really hard sometimes. I find myself also wondering what did that teenage girl do to deserve a child when there are plenty of couples who can provide for a child out there that don't have one? I wish there were answers. Personally, I happen to be a very strong believer in G-d, and I believe it's all in his hands. But that doesn't always make it easier.. especially after negative pregnancy test again and again...

I wanted to end that post that i wish you the best and just remember if your hubby doesn't totally understand, there are other women who do.

I feel for you! As I was reading your post it almost sounded like I was reading my own words. I'm in the same boat and feel the same way. I don't have much advice but after a year of trying I've realized that you can't base your life around getting pregnant. Everything I would do from drinking to planning s night out to planning vacations I think "well what if im pregnant I won't be able to do that or go to this or enjoy this night" that's all I think about. My family wanted to book a vacation months ago and I kept putting it off because I didn't know if I would be pregnant come time for the vacation. But after months of no success and failure i realized I can't live like that. I booked a vacation yesterday and realized if you keep worrying about what's ifs and what other people are doing then you will never be able to enjoy the life you have. Another way to look at it is your time will come whether it's by chance or ivf or adoption and you might as well enjoy the present life around you before your whole life changes. (Whether it be next month or next year). We're all tired of waiting and it's hard to put it in the back of your head but that's all im able to do right now.... But I wish you and all these ladies (and myself) the best in this journey!

After a negative test today, one of many over the last 2 or so years, I just had enough. I broke down in tears and I thought I need to do something and googled support groups. I came across this; the first time I've ever read anything like this. Your post was the first I read and I just wept. I kept say yes, yes, yes! I know I'm not alone. It reading this helped. I felt like they were my words. Thanks for this; you are certainly not crazy.

So my wife and I are right there with you! I'm a lot more positive than my wife is. She has had a rough life to this point... She is a type 1 diabetic, was betrayed by a lot of friends and family growing up, both her sisters got pregnant on either a one night stand or within the first month of trying... Then there is us. Trying for 4 years, 3 failed IUI's and a doctor treating us like crap here recently we feel like we are no where still. I'm worried about my wife, she is getting very depressed, getting closer to giving up, and is starting to lash out at everyone at the drop of a hat. I am a happy, positive person and even I'm loosing it some. I just don't know how to help her. Thank you for sharing!

Thank you all for your responses. Definitely teared up reading everyone's responses. Helps SO much knowing i am not alone. I am so thankful for this support group. I pray and hope for nothing but the best for you all!

I feel the same way! It is so difficult to see so many people having children that truly do not deserve or in some cases even want the child. I used to go to church every Sunday and pray and have others pray for me but month after month it becomes more and more difficult to keep the faith that it will happen for me. Somehow we just have to continue to have hope that it will happen someday.

A lot of these posts sum up what I am going through. I am 30 and have been trying for 5 years with no luck. My family and friends are all having children and all tell me they will pray for me and that it will happen when the time is right but I am so over getting hopeful and then being let down. I have put off going on holidays and taking on higher roles at work, constantly thinking 'what if I fall pregnant and can't follow through with these things'. Sometimes I worry that I have spent too much time focusing on falling pregnant and should just forget the idea, but I don't want to give up. I want to believe that God knows how much I want this and will answer my prayers, but it is getting harder and harder.

You are not crazy! I too find myself questioning "why me" and why certain people get pregnant over others. My husband and I have been trying for over two years, and some days his positivity is overwhelming and I cant take it. I need to feel like I'm not the only one whose heartbroken. So from one woman to another, I feel your pain. And I wish you the best of luck in your journey

I feel the same way. We are likely never going to have a baby due to very low sperm count/motility. I can't stand hearing people say 'oh it'll happen if it's meant to be' and 'you never know, if you just stop trying so hard, you may be surprised'or better yet 'why dont you adopt, you know, my friend got pregnant after she adopted'. I could scream!