One of my closest friends is like that. She is my age (36) and wants kids but not now because of her career. Fine with me if she wants to wait, but don't talk to me about trying to conceive. She talks about trying to conceive a lot like as if whenever she starts trying it will work, no worries. But has also said if she has trouble she will just adopt, like that is so easy too! I sincerely hope for her sake that she has no troubles, but as one of closest friends I wish she was a little more sensitive at times. I have often had to sneak in little jibes to get her to shut up, lol.

I talked to a girl my age just the other day, and she heard me talking to someone else about how my trying was going. She was like "oh are you trying." I said "yeah. for about 2.5 years now." She was shocked! she said she thought that her and her husband would start trying soon, and she thought that she'd be able to just plan which month she got preggo. i just laughed and said yeah, i thought I could too! I remember being so naive....

I actually lost a friendship or rather chose to end it because of the insentivity, out right stupidity of a long time friend. I apologize if this gets too long, you can stop reading now if you want. :)

Said friend had 2 kids, maybe 6 yo &10 yo, can't really remember but older kids, husband had vasectomy reversed. They tried for 3 months got prego with #3. She was about 35/36 at the time. Hubby and I start trying (I was 34), were very naive and thought it would happen right away. No such luck, so I'm having convo with said friend and how frustrated or rather shocked I was that after 4 months of trying, nothing happened. She told me it wasn't God's timing, I was trying to control things too much and I should just let it go. But then in the same breath she has the nerve to tell me that she "lost it" when she didn't think they conceived after trying for #3 for 3 months. Turned out she was indeed prego, so her melt down was for nothing. WTF!!!! You already have 2 kids and you freak out, yet I'm supposed to be calm????

To add to the story, somehow when she started her cycle after #3, her and I were on the same exact cycle even though we live 800 miles apart. So EVERY FREAKING MONTH she's calling me, asking if I ovulated, did we have sex, do I feel any different. About the time I'm ready to tell her to take a flying leap, she writes one more time and asks if I started, of course I had, she has the nerve to tell me she she's 2 days late and REALLY tired. Am I supposed to congratulate you??? If I could reach through the phone and slap you I would.

I wrote back and told her how insensitive I thought she was and I didn't need her breathing over my shoulder all the time. And how month after month it's just a painful reminder. Her excuse was, she thought I wasn't "excited" enough. Well after 8 months of NOTHING, what do I have to get excited about?? And then to top it all off, we finally get pregnant and then miscarry the same month she has #4.

She hasn't emailed lately, which is good, cuz I'd make her cry.

Yes, super annoying! What is even more annoying is when it IS so freaking easy for them! ughhhhhhhhh

poly doly - UGH that woman DOES not sound like a friend. Makes me angry just thinking about it!

Kelly - thanks :) I know underneath it all, she meant well. And I don't think she's ever had to really work for anything or be "without" in her life. I'm sure she's had her struggles but until life deals you lemons, you just don't know how to relate to other ppl.

I know it's not fair of me to want to take it out on her, but I do. She's turned REALLY religious and so they don't plan to ever practice birth control again, just let God make all their decisions. I think it would be over the top to wish a miscarriage on them, but I do hope that at some point, in the near future, they have a hard time conceiving. I'm sure she'll be working on #5 by the end of the year, hopefully this one takes them a while. So she might have some sort of "feeling" of what this is like. But then again, how can you compare her trying for #5, with many of us trying for #1.

Oh and can't help but notice your name Kelly0713?? You don't have to respond if it's too personal, but the 0713 made me think it's your bday?? That happens to be mine. :)

PolyDoly13 I SO understand! Am dealing with a preggo friend right now who is doing this to me, and to make matters WORSE she is pregnant with a criminal she has been sleeping with behind her husbands back. I am SPEECHLESS.

A- FREAKN - MEN!!!

Well the "friend" I wrote about in this thread, who I thought I had blown off enough that she would leave me alone. She called. Luckily I didn't answer cuz I didn't recognize the number but now I'm afraid she'll email. I just don't have it in me to be nice to her. I am so upset with her holier than though attitude, never having TTC. I should realize it's not her fault - but the attitude that goes along with it, PISSES me off. I really want to be mean to her. And that's probably not the right attitude.

I got annoyed last summer by an acquaintance that I ran into at a yard sale, when she told me that she and her hubby were planning on getting pregnant early this year, because that's when the timing would work out with their jobs and what not. And they did just that. My sister also talks about when she thinks she'll be ready for her next baby (she has a 6 mo old, and got pregnant w/o trying), and it gets under my skin. I don't want to be annoyed with them, it's not their fault that I couldn't just up and get pregnant the moment I decided I was ready. But I do feel the need to roll my eyes at them when they aren't looking.

I can't get too angry though, as the acquaintance has become my best customer of crocheted goods (some for the new baby), and my sister can pop out as many nephews and nieces for me as she wants! I love spoiling the little shits and then handing them back to her when I'm done! (Hey, we all get our kicks in different ways, don't judge me!) lol

So yeah, it's annoying, but it's not their fault we can't get pregnant, so try not to blame them or take it out on them too much. Just make a voo-doo doll of them and shove needles in their eyes when you're at home. I won't tell. ;)