Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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saenz89 06/30/2018

I’ve never felt so alone until the moment I was speaking with a friend about how hard it’s going to be to help plan my little newphews 1st Birthday. I tried to explain to her that my angle baby will be one on July 13,2018 and in less than two month later I have to help with my nephews 1st. She told me that I should be fine. That its two months after my babies heavenly birthday. I’m so sick of people telling me it’s going to be fine. That hey good thing you can at least get pregnant. No one gets it. No one understands that just hearing about gender reveals and baby announcements send me to tears. I’m tired of trying to stay strong so others won’t feel bad around me. I’m hoping just writing and hearing about others woman’s experience will help me cope with my loss. Thank you ladies for sharing.

blbnjf 07/01/2018

I am so sorry for your loss and for your struggle to find support. I am glad that you reached out here bc there are several ladies here who understand what you are experiencing. I found that it was almost useless to try to talk to anyone who hadn’t experienced it themselves. Even though people might mean well, they just don’t get it. Please know that you are not alone and that you are strong enough to get through this. Sending you love and light tonight:)

DivaDiDi 07/02/2018

I feel the same way. A close friend of mine only tried for 2 months and got pregnant. She told me she was pregnant on June 2 and I haven't seen her since and only had contact with her via text once after she told me. I was honest though when she told me. I told her I am really happy for her, but it is too difficult for me to be around it. Besides, before I miscarried last September (and haven't gotten pregnant since) I was happy about being pregnant so she and her husband should be happy and not feel like it is making me feel bad...cuz it would, even if I chose not to show it. My husband and I already had 2 occasions where we were suppose to hang out with them, but I told my husband I am not going so he cancelled on them. My friend and her husband are understanding and tell us to take as much time as we need. I feel bad I have removed myself from her life for now, but I need to do this for self preservation.

Keep your head up and know we are right here with you!

saenz89 07/02/2018

Thank you ladies for the support. It’s crazy how similar our stories are. @Divididi I get it when you say you needed to stay away for your own preservation. I’m so happy you have an understanding friend, it was hard to explain that to me friend, she and I were pregnant at the same time and were due about a week apart. She only tried once and I was so happy for her but then I misscarried. This was my second pregnancy. She couldn’t understand why I was pulling back and just couldn’t share in her excitement. But again it’s hard to explain it to someone who’s never been where I’m at, I hope and pray you and your husband become pregnant. It’s so now a days.

I’ll keep you in my prayers and I’m right along with you.

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