Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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I am adopted and just went over to that community to see what it was about. I think I'm more depressed now!! Here we are, unable to get BFPs and here are some of them who HAVE BFPs and don't want to, or can't afford, to keep their babies. Why can they get unwanted BFPs, but we can't get our much needed and wanted ones? I've considered adoption, but I've seen too many sad endings with too many loop holes, and don't think I could bare losing another kid (I had a m/c). BUT, I guess I was a happy ending for my own parents; so there have to be success stories. It just makes the skin on my neck crawl that life could be this "funny".
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i was (happily) adopted too---so was my sister. i stay away from the adoption community here---its not the right place for those w/ IF looking into adoption! goodluck!
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I agree with Nancy - stay away from negative energy right now! I'm not adopted but don't have any communication with my birth mother. I have no idea what it is like to be adopted, so please don't get me wrong, but what my experience tells me is Love is Love and Pain is Pain regardless of who's tummy you came out of. I was given a life by a woman (who I think of as a mother) that I would have never had with my actaul mom. Something to think about. No one deserves to be lost. Not even you girl! I know it's scary. Try to keep your head up.
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It is crazy how everything works. Here we are going out of our minds trying to get pregnant and there are so many who are getting pregnant who don't want to or can't keep their children for some reason. I try to, but is so hard to understand.
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every time I go to the adoption community here I get bummed out.
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Thanks guys! How crazy that something so small can have such an impact on such a terrible time in life right now. I didn't think it would bother me as much as it did. I agree, no negative energy!
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The infertility community is the best!! I have ventured out and always run back here disappointed and sad. You'll get all the support you need here. Sorry you had a bad experience.
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I struggle with that sometimes too. I was not adopted, but knew at a young age I may never have my own children. Over the years I saw people have abortions, give babies away or abuse the children they had. It made me, and still does make me very angry and confused.
I try to tell myself that if it wasn't for the women who give their children for adoption, then those couples who will never carry a child of their own would never know the joy of having a family. I think that is what helps me through it.
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I know that it was silly but this discussion sparked my curiosity, so i looked and you all are right it was really hard to read some of the stories on there. It was a total bummer how easy others are able to get pregnant while some have such a terribly hard time.
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lioness81, I feel the same about people who abuse, abandon, or can't take care of their children. I know there are so many that need homes. I just can't get past the feelings of feeling let down and all that could go wrong with the adoption process. I think all of us are suffering enough trying to get BFPs, and then to give up, try and adopt, and possibly have something go wrong there.....I'd have to start drinking heavily!