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I joined facebook a few months ago and I quickly started staying away from it because so many women I went high school with and haven't seen in years friended me. Well, I feel like they all just go on there and post pictures of their kids and new babies. So I stopped even looking at it and I wish I would've kept away. Don't get me wrong, if I had babies to brag about I'm sure I would be the first one on there but being someone who can't seem to have a child and has lost 3 pregnancies it's really hard. I just saw that a girl I used to work with is pregnant with her second baby. She had her first around the same time I should've had my first had I not miscarried. Now she's on her second and I am still childless. Ironically her second will be born the same time my baby should've been born had I not miscarried again. It just makes me realize how long this process has been when people are on their second child during the same amount of time I have been TTC with no success. I just feel like life is so unfair. I feel like I will never be blessed with what I want most in life. Since my last m/c in January I feel like I'm even further away from my dream since AF has still not arrived and all test results have given us NO answers.
Thanks for letting me vent. Sometimes I feel like this is the only place I can go and really be understood.
Thanks for letting me vent. Sometimes I feel like this is the only place I can go and really be understood.
I've never miscarried, so I can't begin to know THAT pain, but I've never even been pregnant (despite being in a long term relationship in my 20's and early 30's where 6 of the 9 years were spent not using protection). I'm beginning to doubt whether I CAN or ever WILL get pregnant - and that's a special kind of hell unto itself as well.
My BFF (literally - we've been friends since 3rd grade), who is only 4 months younger than I am is due in May with her 3rd child. Her first was in her early 20's from a relationship that didn't last. I introduced her to her current husband, who was a friend of mine. They've been married for about 5 years and their little girl is going on 4. They married in August and she had their daughter the next August. They got PG like as *soon* as they started trying. And now she's expecting another. I'm SO very happy for them - they're both old and dear friends of mine and I'm glad they found happiness together, but part of me is insanely jealous.
They live in a different part of the state, so I don't see them often, but we keep in touch through Facebook and reading her status updates about "pregnancy brain" forgetfulness and how "fat" she is and doctor appointments and when they found out the sex of the baby, etc.... I WANT THAT!!!
I've always considered myself a fairly strong person emotionally, but this is by FAR the hardest emotional rollercoaster I've EVER had to ride in my life.
I also took Clomid in December, and right after I miscarried in early Jan I found out that a woman at the electric company is pregnant. So now when I go in to pay the electric bill every month I'll have to see her. Since I already disliked her it was easy to tell her how "great" I thought her pregnancy was.... no surprise my electric bill somehow doubled last month, as I did not use any nice words at all. I'm willing to bet that I could have made a sailor say, "language, please" that day.
Aside from those two, it seems that everyone else can just get pregnant, or has some very useful advice on how to get pregnant. It really does make me very angry and resentful. Someday it will be our turn to celebrate, and we'll all either dance around showing off our huge baby bumps, without complaining about how fat we are or stretch marks.