This is my first time joining a support group. I should've done this sooner. I'm a very strong person but this has been very diffiicult. I work as a foster care caseworker which adds to my pain ( I currenlty have 3 parent clients who are pregnant).

Anyhow... I'm on my 3rd try, doing 2 embryos at a time. 1st took but lost it at about 3 1/2 weeks (low progesterone levels), 2nd was also a fresh transfer but didn't take, and i just had my 3rd transfer (1st FET) on 8/10/12. I find out on Monday 8/20 if either or both took.

Each cycle i've been looking for symptoms prior to pregnancy test to determine if it worked. Each time i had the cramping during 1st couple of days. My 1st time i experienced sweating a lot at night, getting up to urinate in the middle of the night, and a heavy feeling in my uterus then found out it took, but didn't last. 2nd time, i didn't have these symptoms and just knew it didn't take. This time, I had sweating only one night, got up only once to urinate in the middle of the night, and felt the heavy feeling in my uterus until yesterday when i felt no symptoms.

People keep telling me that every preganancy is different but they've never done IVF. People also keep telling me how most women don't even know they're pregnant until they miss a period. However, these women they're referring to aren't doing IVF and probably aren't even trying to get pregnant so they're not looking for signs and symptoms.

Trying to remain positive but when the symptoms aren't there or if i'm not feeling the cramping/heavy feeling, i start to get negative thoughts. Please give any experiences/thoughts about this.