Infertility Support Group

In vitro fertilization is one of the most common and utilized ways of treating conception problems. This support group is dedicated to those beginning their journey with IVF and needing support. Join the community and share your experiences, advice, and story with people going through similar challenges starting a family.

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WinniePoo 01/09/2008

Ok so I know I should be incredibly happy for my cousin. She is 9weeks pregnant (we just found out). And I am happy for her since this time last year she had a miscarriage at about this same gestation. But seeping through the happiness is the ugly green monster of envy and jealousy, followed closely by a deep sense of sadness and then guilt for not being 100% happy. I am on day 9 of my 2ww, but I woke up feeling not pregnant. Like it just didn't work this cycle. Why can't I just be happy for her and have faith in my own body this month? Everything just feels wrong.

deleted_user 01/09/2008

I know what you mean. My SIL is pregnant and it is hard for me to be happy for her, especially since this is an unplanned pregnancy. But, I wake up all the time, feeling like everything is just all wrong too. I think I get my hopes up so much just to be let down, that I quit getting my hopes up.

deleted_user 01/09/2008

I know how you feel, too. My SIL is also preg., due in 2 mos., and it's hard for me to be excited all the time. Mom wants to plan a baby shower at my house, and i'm trying to avoid that at all costs. I'm also in my 2ww and have 5 more days to go. I don't feel preg. and have a feeling that af is on the way. Baby prayers to you and me.

deleted_user 01/09/2008

I'm sorry. I know how hard it is to want to be happy for someone but still be so sad for yourself. Don't be hard on yourself though. It is a natural reaction. I do hope you are wrong about AF coming. I pray for all of you in your 2ww that we start hearing about the BFPs soon!

deleted_user 01/09/2008

I know what you mean. My sister mentioned she might try for another baby. It would be her third. I started trying right after she had her first and still nothing. I love her kids to death and know I would love another but the jealousy monster is there.

I should be having my ER this weekend. I am hoping for it to work but there are always doubts. Nothing else has worked so why should this one. I am so scared to get my hopes up.

WinniePoo 01/09/2008

i too am 5 days away and feel completely unpregnant. and i'm not talking about the morning sickness or tender boobs. i'm talking gut instinct not pregnant

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