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So my most recent news from the doc is that I was born with a abnormal chromosome. When I pass this chromosome to my baby it is fatal. I will miscarry everytime that I pass it. There is however a 25% chance that I wont pass it and can have a normal pregnancy. I like the scenario 1 out of four pregnancies the best because I have had 3 miscarriages so I figure the fouth should do it, ha in my dreams.
My doc said my options are to keep trying knowing I could have like 10 miscarriages before I have a birth or use another womans egg.
The good thing is knowing I can carry a baby. the bad thing is knowing I may never be able to carry "my" egg or baby.
We all know that people dont know what to say in these situations. I dont even know how I feel about it yet but my MIL wow she really out did herself this time!
She said and I quote " So youre choices are to keep having miscarriages or use another persons egg. why dont you just use one of your sisters eggs, get them pregnant with Scotts sperm then let them carry it so you dont have to"
So i dont HAVE TO? Like its some kind of burden? Why would I not want to carry my baby? Or my sisters egg. My MIL has 5 children and it just makes me sick when people dont know how lucky they are. I mean did she not enjoy being pregnant? If not why did she do it 5 times and why would you ever say to somebody who just recieved this news that maybe I should just give up and let somebody else do it for me.
How does she not know she is being rude? I dont get it. She also informed me now for the 3rd time that she WILL be in the delivary room. you know Im worried enouph that I will ever be pregnant at all why would she ever say that she will be in the room... maybe ask can I be in the room.
Its just that I want my Husband my sisters and my mom in there. I really dont want anybody else. If I can have a baby its going to be different with my birth because of how hard it was to accomplish.
Okay Im done with my sob story
My doc said my options are to keep trying knowing I could have like 10 miscarriages before I have a birth or use another womans egg.
The good thing is knowing I can carry a baby. the bad thing is knowing I may never be able to carry "my" egg or baby.
We all know that people dont know what to say in these situations. I dont even know how I feel about it yet but my MIL wow she really out did herself this time!
She said and I quote " So youre choices are to keep having miscarriages or use another persons egg. why dont you just use one of your sisters eggs, get them pregnant with Scotts sperm then let them carry it so you dont have to"
So i dont HAVE TO? Like its some kind of burden? Why would I not want to carry my baby? Or my sisters egg. My MIL has 5 children and it just makes me sick when people dont know how lucky they are. I mean did she not enjoy being pregnant? If not why did she do it 5 times and why would you ever say to somebody who just recieved this news that maybe I should just give up and let somebody else do it for me.
How does she not know she is being rude? I dont get it. She also informed me now for the 3rd time that she WILL be in the delivary room. you know Im worried enouph that I will ever be pregnant at all why would she ever say that she will be in the room... maybe ask can I be in the room.
Its just that I want my Husband my sisters and my mom in there. I really dont want anybody else. If I can have a baby its going to be different with my birth because of how hard it was to accomplish.
Okay Im done with my sob story
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I'm sorry about the results, but I like your positive attitude. I pray that you get your healthy baby soon :o)
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I'm very sorry your having to go through this. Our situation is a little similar in that my husband cannot have children. We finally decided to use a donor. The decision is somewhat difficult but once you decide and move forward it's much easier. Good luck, you'll be in my prayers!
baby-blues99
I am so sorry to hear your news. I wish you the best of luck with your next BFP. Sorry you have to deal with a MIL like that, I can only imagine the added stress from that. I have come to the realization that people don't think before they speak and unless you are going through this stuggle yourself you don't understand the true sadness.
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I'm so sorry that you are goign through this. It sounds like you are staying positive through all this even with your MIL who sounds obnoxious! I don't know what makes people speak without thinking. Try not to let her get to you too much and you can always vent to us. Good luck and I will be praying that your next BFP is part of that luck 25%
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I know someone who has this..did you ask about IVF with PGD which would be able to analyse the embryos before putting them back in you?
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I agree -- I would think your best shot would be to do IVF with prenatal genetic diagnosis to reimplant the 1 in 4 embryos that do not have the affected gene. You are the perfect candidate for that -- obviously getting pregnant is not a problem; you just need to get pregnant with an egg that has the right combination of genes. You should discuss this with your genetic counselor.
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Yes I have a friend who had a child with Cystic Fibrosis and had to have PGD, and know has another boy and girl, she carried, healthy and no CF. I'm surprised your dr didn't suggest PGD.. may be time to find a new one..
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I am sorry about what you are going through and having to deal with insensitive comments from your MIL on top of this. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do.
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GIRL FIRST OF ALL YOU WILL CARRY YOUR OWN CHILD SOMEDAY . EVEN WITH ANOTHER WOMANS EGGS ITS STILL YOUR CHILD AND YOU CARRY THE BABY. TELL YOUR MIL SHE WILL BE IN THE ROOM IF YOU WANT HER THERE BUT SINCE SHE DONT UNDERSTAND OR CARE WHAT YOU GO THROUGH THERE ARE OTHERS YOU WANT IN THERE. ISNT THAT BEING AS RUDE AS SHE IS . I BET SHE WOULDNT LIKE YOU TO SAY THAT TO HER. I SAY DONT INVITE HER INTO THE ROOM . HAVE WHO YOU WANT CAUSE ITS YOUR BABY AND SHE IS INSENSITIVE. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. SOMETIMES I COULD JUST SLAP PPL .
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