Infertility, Secondary Support Group
"Secondary infertility" is difficulty conceiving after already having conceived and carried a normal pregnancy. Apart from various medical conditions (e.g. hormonal), this may come as a result of age and stress felt to provide a sibling for their first child.
Hey ladies,i really feel like I need a place to offload this ton o emotions im carrying! ... I feel like I dont even know where to begin with how im feeling I just wish I cld find some peace with or without a much wanted second child,i just seem stuck inn stupid limbo....going round and round...i thought id comme to terms and accepted that whatever was meant to b would b but now I realise I havvent as iv just found out that this wasnt what my hubby was thinking.he mentioned in a heated discussion that he definatly wants a baby,he says he doesnt want to lose me and cant bear the thought of not being with me but wants children,,i would neverr want to b selfish or cause him any pain ,i just feel so stuck hhe wants us to just keep trying n trying n says he loves me n cant walk away not yet but im now askin myyself why r we stayin together if the outcome is more or less certainly a childless mariage? I do love him so much ,never hadd such an amazing connection with someone I just feel like if he really wants his own child like he says then heartache will come n why delay it? He says he doesnt like how I try to finish the relationship n he wants me to stay positive n keep tryin......oh god,please help me/us .....this infertility is tearing us apart
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Hey girl, I am so sorry to hear about all the stress going on in your relationship :( Infertility can definitely put a wedge between people and it is tough sometimes not to get lost in all the emotions. I really do hope that you can work it out with or without a baby because that would be such a shame. How long have you two been trying? Have you considered IUI or IVF as an option for him to try to have a biological baby? I know you posted this a few months so how are things going now? I wish you the best.
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Trust me, infertility is tearing my husband and I apart also. I want IVF and he thinks it is crazy to gamble our money like that. We have had 2 IUI's with no success. I want another baby in the worst way and would go to the end of the earth to have one. He tries to keep on telling me that we should just be happy with my son Sam. I am extremely happy with Sam, but don't want him to be an only child. One more child would complete me and my family. So good luck. Our RE told us that a couple of studies out there compared that the stress of infertility is the same as getting the diagnosis of cancer. It is so true and horribly devasting every month when it doesn't happen.
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