Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
Found this site for male survivors and thought it might be helpful. Can be accessed at malesurvivor.org Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., LICDC,
I have not done a thorough investigation so you'll want to do that for yourself, but I did copy down their Daily Affirmations.
Recovery is absolutely possible and achievable for me.
I will practice being disloyal to dysfunction and loyal to functionality.
I give myself permission to connect to loving, affirmative, strong, sensitive, accepting men and women in my community.
I release and forgive myself for any responsibility I have accepted in the past for my abuse.
The abuser (s) from the past chose to hurt me; I will stop repeating the lie that it just happened to me.
Offering myself daily compassion is necessary for my healing and growth.
I commit to connecting to the boy inside me today so we can play, laugh and experience joy together, even if just for a minute or two.
I believe deep inside me I possess the ability to face the truth of my abuse and to learn to use new tools for healing.
I have the right and the ability to speak the truth of my abuse and deserve to be heard, understood, believed and supported.
Feeling is healing; as I heal, I develop the ability to experience a wider range of emotions to enhance my health and connections to others.
SuzA
I have not done a thorough investigation so you'll want to do that for yourself, but I did copy down their Daily Affirmations.
Recovery is absolutely possible and achievable for me.
I will practice being disloyal to dysfunction and loyal to functionality.
I give myself permission to connect to loving, affirmative, strong, sensitive, accepting men and women in my community.
I release and forgive myself for any responsibility I have accepted in the past for my abuse.
The abuser (s) from the past chose to hurt me; I will stop repeating the lie that it just happened to me.
Offering myself daily compassion is necessary for my healing and growth.
I commit to connecting to the boy inside me today so we can play, laugh and experience joy together, even if just for a minute or two.
I believe deep inside me I possess the ability to face the truth of my abuse and to learn to use new tools for healing.
I have the right and the ability to speak the truth of my abuse and deserve to be heard, understood, believed and supported.
Feeling is healing; as I heal, I develop the ability to experience a wider range of emotions to enhance my health and connections to others.
SuzA
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I feel so dirty and used I was drunk and passed out at a party when I came around some guy was on top of me rapeing me he covered my mouth and told me to shut up afterwards he got up and got dressed and said I better not tell anyone I found my friend and reported that I had been raped after having medical checks and them getting DNA I've taken the morning after pill IAM just so depressed and...
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Upon his departure, he remarked, "I am in many people’s pockets; no one will believe you." Have you ever grappled with the silence that follows sexual assault, where the perceived impossibility of being believed necessitates self-censorship?
I know of another website for male survivors called 1in6.org. 1 in 6 is the number of men who have been sexually abused.
Affirmations help me, maybe I'll spend some time studying the material on the websites mentioned and take some steps to heal, instead of trivializing what happened.
I'm beginning to think that female pedophiles are not rare at all...and society's ignorance of them is a terrible injustice to male children. I used to think that my sister's sexual aggression wasn't something that affected me. But I don't think that anymore. In fact I don't think I ever did "get over it". I'm finding out that all kinds of things about myself that I formerly blamed on "weakness" are actually symptoms of sexual and emotional abuse.
I think the only difference between male victims of sexual abuse and female victims is the fact that males are taught to "tough it out and not complain". So it only seems like males are less affected because they're more likely to keep quiet about it.