Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
Inside this week's "special Christmas gifts" with Franois Hollande on the cover, there is a whole dossier on incest, incestuous relatives and incestuous pregnancies.
It opens with my story.First I got a shock, seeing my name althoughI had insisted that I wanted my full name printed, with my maiden name so that my father's name would appear clearly and my married name so that there was no ambiguity
2 weeks ago, I had signed a national manifesto in which famous and unknown women like me declared they had been raped.
I signed, commenting that we must also become aware of the many men who are raped and the incredible amount of children who were raped .I also said it was time to lift the tabou on incestuous pregnancies.
I wrote the article in all our names.in fact,I could never have found the courage without your support on this board.
Reading the article, the 12 year old moonface was happy,I felt immense joy inside "things are changing, they are hearing us, they are believing us".
Soon afterwards, as anticipated, an unrational fear got me "they are going to come and kill me".My husband, also a survivor withPTSD, seeing his name in a national magazine, started with the same ambivallent feelings, joy and fear.
We showed each other how we have been deeply traumatised and made to remain silent by these terrible mental manipulations.
I wish to tell you all: No, you will not die if you speak out;it will be the beginning of your freedom and for others's sake too, we must speak and not let our abusers get away.
It is time to speak out and not remain silent.
For our sake, for our children's sake, for any body else who could get in contact with our abusers and get abused too, for our own abusers's sake too.It is the only way we can really help them, give them a chance to face their illness or rather protect themselves from themselves as most of them, any way will never stop.
Our silence makes them win, makes the abuse continue in the world.
it might take you years before you are strong enough to speak but one day, you 've got to add your voice .
it is so tragic that they could have so much power on us and keep us in terror of the day we would speak when it is them in fact who were scared of beeing found out . We believed them all that time.We fell in their trap, in their perverse prison of silence.The door is open.we did not know.We locked the door ourselves.How tragic.
It opens with my story.First I got a shock, seeing my name althoughI had insisted that I wanted my full name printed, with my maiden name so that my father's name would appear clearly and my married name so that there was no ambiguity
2 weeks ago, I had signed a national manifesto in which famous and unknown women like me declared they had been raped.
I signed, commenting that we must also become aware of the many men who are raped and the incredible amount of children who were raped .I also said it was time to lift the tabou on incestuous pregnancies.
I wrote the article in all our names.in fact,I could never have found the courage without your support on this board.
Reading the article, the 12 year old moonface was happy,I felt immense joy inside "things are changing, they are hearing us, they are believing us".
Soon afterwards, as anticipated, an unrational fear got me "they are going to come and kill me".My husband, also a survivor withPTSD, seeing his name in a national magazine, started with the same ambivallent feelings, joy and fear.
We showed each other how we have been deeply traumatised and made to remain silent by these terrible mental manipulations.
I wish to tell you all: No, you will not die if you speak out;it will be the beginning of your freedom and for others's sake too, we must speak and not let our abusers get away.
It is time to speak out and not remain silent.
For our sake, for our children's sake, for any body else who could get in contact with our abusers and get abused too, for our own abusers's sake too.It is the only way we can really help them, give them a chance to face their illness or rather protect themselves from themselves as most of them, any way will never stop.
Our silence makes them win, makes the abuse continue in the world.
it might take you years before you are strong enough to speak but one day, you 've got to add your voice .
it is so tragic that they could have so much power on us and keep us in terror of the day we would speak when it is them in fact who were scared of beeing found out . We believed them all that time.We fell in their trap, in their perverse prison of silence.The door is open.we did not know.We locked the door ourselves.How tragic.
Ironically, it is also a "special Christmas gifts" issue.
My mother has a subscription to it.She must have got it.
xx
Suz
Now just trying to read the first one - emotionally much harder to get through.
My mum must have got my letter by now...I wonder how both my mother and yours are reacting
Hugs
Consequently, i had the urgencies sent to her place and felt guilty.My poor mother, bla, bla, bla.
Today, the journalist from the magazine calls, visibly perturbed;My mother has contacted my brother, a very influent man in France .He has phoned the head of the magazinesaying i am insane andthreatens to press charges etc...
My mother is back, did not take her long to regain her energy and viciousness.She has just called to insult me on the phone for calling the urgencies.
Breaking, prepare yourself to be called crazy and your letter totally ignored.
How is the magazine responding to your brother's threats?