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Pandor's Aquarium is another support web site that i have been going to. I have nothing but bad experieces with the moderators there for responding to threads in the same way i always do. i try to be sensitive and caring. but i got booted off the site. Has anyone else had this type of experience? just curious.
rich
rich
I have not seen anyone kicked off this site, except for one member who was hellbent on insulting everyone and belittling the other members. And it took a while to get DS to remove him permanently. I have not read anything that you have written that would even be close to insulting or degrading of others. You have always seemed to be very sensitive to other's experiences and, from what I have read you have used proper and appropriate wording, so I can't imagine you getting "the boot" -
Now that I think about it, there was another member that was trying to sell her autobiography and I think they asked her to leave, but outside of re-victimizing others or promoting something you have for sale, members here are pretty well allowed to say what they need to say and how they need to say it.
Most of us will tell you if you are inappropriate with other members, hopefully in a respectful but direct way.
BTW - I have finished about half of your book and I like it very well - you have some really deep insights and I think that other members here appreciate what you have to offer - that is in my humble opinion.
Take care justanothersurvivor -
All my best
Refuse2quit
She was in Florida! perfectly legal suggestion, but apparently too triggery.
I had similar experiences with encouraging people to take defensive action.
I found it depressing we could listen to their weakness, but we couldn't tell them they were strong, they could fight for themselves...and I didn't feel welcome at all.
refuse: I can understand their point about selling things on line. but that was not the case. I had been on pandora's since 2010.
I really wasn't imply that you were selling items on Pandora's Aquarium - just that this is one thing that I know got another member asked to leave from this site - as an answer to what gets people asked to leave. DS seems very willing to allow others to voice their opinions as long as they are done in a respectful manner.
I have not been to Pandora's Aquarium, so I can't really say anything about them - but DS seems very tolerant of others opinions and ideas - again, the mutual respect is an issue for any forum and I think DS does a pretty good job of respecting the members and their opinions.
All my best as always!
Refuse2quit
I find here there's more free rein and most issues are often sorted out by "group consciousness" you could say. What some may have trouble getting there head around, others can totally relate and find those comments useful, but if we did have mediators than many of those useful threads may be pulled. I know we have CL's around, but they seem to act more as "peacekeepers" if a thread gets hostile.
I have got kicked out a members started group here, not sure why and I wasn't given a reason but those groups are controlled often by those that started them, so I obviously triggered something in them. Oh well water under the bridge.
Sorry to hear that happened to you, I know that was one of those "what the___!??" moments. So feel comfortable here and if someday one of your comments are really "out there", chances are you'll be asked what's wrong since we tend to get to know each other here. So when we do see a "strange" comment many understand it's coming from someone going through a rough spell and instead of banning them we help them through it.
My Best to You, Blaine