Incest Survivors Support Group

Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...

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PeekAhBooGirl
PeekAhBooGirl

I don't think i'm doing too good. I want to talk about it but I don't. I want someone to know but I dont. I want it to stop, but I'm scared. I don't want my mom to find out.. I freak out at the thought. My friends: three know now.. they say I should find a therapist or tell my mom or talk to someone. I have no money what do ever. My parents don't even really..  got enough to pay bills.. my mom has back problems.. keep us and the animals barely fed... borrowing money from grandparents. I don't know what to do. I'm scared.. I think I'm depressed.. I've been thinking off death lately, yet I haven't tried anything, I'm too scared about self harming.. I'm a wimp in general.. I'm a loser. A fucking loser. 

surfvivor
surfvivor
I know how rough it can be at times, but hang in there!
LiveForHope93
LiveForHope93
I know exactly how your feeling. I'm going through a similar situation where I haven't been able to talk about it with anyone. Not even my mom, incest has happened on both sides of my family, it's messed up. I can't tell my mom bc I love my dad no matter what, he threatens to kill himself bc he feels so bad from the past and I don't want that to happen. What's really fucked up is he knows how to turn me on emotionally and mentally "secretly" so then I feel bad and go back into hiding myself because it actually does make me feel a certain way but I'm working on fixing that, bc it's not right but therapy is a great way to go. I have to start going back there again. But you have us for support!!
roseynosey
roseynosey
Here whenever you want to talk hon! Stay safe and strong!
Tesstotheworld
Tesstotheworld
It is an abuse of power. The adult in your life is there it protect, not harm. My dad said he did not hurt me and what he was doing was out of love. Its a lie.
They are self centered and unable to care for another being. I am 58. The abuse happened a long time ago. I am just now able to confront my dad, the person who molested me.

I am sorry this is happening to you. Take courage in knowing you are not responsible for their actions. Stop the cycle any way you can, apart from harming yourself further.

Praying for you
gardenkeeper2018
gardenkeeper2018
It sounds so overwhelming and scary now, but breaking the circle and getting help will end the ongoing incest, it will end the ongoing destruction of trust and it will open a window and let light into a very dark place. Recovery takes a long time. There are people waiting to help you, even if you lose some of yours you have now. I’ve been there. I told a friend who told her mom who told police. I wasn’t ready for what happened next, but 40 years later, looking back, I am grateful it happened and I could stop all the ugliness earlier. Even though you are afraid, I hope you tell someone who can help. Please keep writing.