Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
Hello -
I am new to this forum and just wanted to say Hello. I am an incest survivor that was molested by a cousin at age 8 until age 14 and an uncle from age 13 until I kicked his ass at age 18.
Both of my abusers are dead now, having died several years ago. I was never able to confront my cousin as he died in a car wreck before when I was 16, and I never truly was able to confront my uncle before his death (due to HIV) when I was 30 - I did literally kick him off me the last time he was abusing me (age 18), and never allowed myself to be in his presence alone again.
The only person who knew of my molestation was my mother who recently passed of Multiple Myeloma (cancer). My sister and I (the only children) have recently talked of my past, and I did talk to my Dad briefly about it a few years back.
My mother's passing and the recent talks with family have made some old scars reopen and I am having some rough times now.
I could go on and on, but have revealed enough today (at least now I can judge now when to "back off" rather than just continue to revel in the depression that my past has brought with it.
I am an unemployed social worker - have been looking for employment for 2 years and recently my unemployment ran out. Kind of feel like the world is crashing in at time, but have faith that a better day is coming.
Just checking in and wanted to say "Hi" to others,
Steve
I am new to this forum and just wanted to say Hello. I am an incest survivor that was molested by a cousin at age 8 until age 14 and an uncle from age 13 until I kicked his ass at age 18.
Both of my abusers are dead now, having died several years ago. I was never able to confront my cousin as he died in a car wreck before when I was 16, and I never truly was able to confront my uncle before his death (due to HIV) when I was 30 - I did literally kick him off me the last time he was abusing me (age 18), and never allowed myself to be in his presence alone again.
The only person who knew of my molestation was my mother who recently passed of Multiple Myeloma (cancer). My sister and I (the only children) have recently talked of my past, and I did talk to my Dad briefly about it a few years back.
My mother's passing and the recent talks with family have made some old scars reopen and I am having some rough times now.
I could go on and on, but have revealed enough today (at least now I can judge now when to "back off" rather than just continue to revel in the depression that my past has brought with it.
I am an unemployed social worker - have been looking for employment for 2 years and recently my unemployment ran out. Kind of feel like the world is crashing in at time, but have faith that a better day is coming.
Just checking in and wanted to say "Hi" to others,
Steve
With that being said welcome to the group. I have gotten a lot from DS, I hope you have the same positive experience.
It can be a difficult road to travel, but I have learned a lot about myself along the way, and if I can help others with what I have learned then it is not all in vain, is it? I have found that helping others allows me to understand that I have something to offer - my molesters really did a number on my self image and so every time I can assist someone else and do something positive, I kind of mentally kick the assholes in the nuts, you know?
Anyway, thanks again for the response - nice to know that others are reading and not just writing.
JustAnotherSurvivor has some things in common with you if you want to reach out to him.
My mother is also deceased, and I wish I could talk to her about what happened to me. I also wish I could confide in a sibling about what happened to me. I hope your sister is a comfort to you. Good luck on the job search. We need a lot more social workers on some payroll considering how screwed up everything is.
take care
Dragonfly
I appreciate your posts - needed the reminder of self-worth. Unfortunately, we live in a society where the values are placed on profit, and social work is not seen as highly profitable - unless you are one of the recipients of their assistance, then we are invaluable. So strange, but our country has no problem spending billions to look into outer space, as such a small fraction of that to look at the "inner space" of others. (and don't get me wrong - I find beauty in what the Hubble telescope has given us, but I still think our values are all screwed up!)
Thanks again for the affirmation, I needed that today.
rich
justanothersurvivor
This was an older post - I had been monitoring the site for sometime before I posted this and found it to be a safe and supportive place for people like me/us. I have gained SO MUCH from here is a relatively short time. I feel like I have been online much longer than I have - probably due to the importance of this site to me. It has become a safe haven and I find that now I am much stronger - I was going through some really tough times when I first logged on and was really struggling - due to people, much like yourself, I now find I am more able to give and receive help from here.
It is fortuitous that you have brought this post back up - reminds me how short of a time I have been here - due to a stressful day and several things transpiring throughout, I appreciate your kindness more than you will know.
Overall, I am past so much of my abuse - yes, there are times when I get down, but there are so many bright days now - When I posted this my Mother had passed just a month and half before and I was raw feeling. But there is another reason that I needed this post brought to the surface - reasons of my own.
I do wish you a blessed day and should you ever need to talk, please feel free to contact me - I am on a lot, so give me a shout when you want.
Refuse2quit
By the way - I really don't believe there is such a thing as "just" another survivor - I treasure each one I meet - it is through them that I get hope and strength, so to me we are all special!!!