Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
Hi
So I am new on here.. I just found out about this place from a blog.
I am 18 years old, and 2 years ago I got my first piece of memory from my abuse.
Whem I was 8 years old, I was molested. By my grandfather who we were living with at the time. And I know my sister was too. I don't know how long this happened for.. I just remember it happening when I was 8, and I remember seeing it happen to my sister. I also remember telling my mom, who told my grandma. They confronted my grandpa, he denied it. They took his side, and it was never brought up again
Ever since these memories surfaced, I have been drowning in anxiety and depression. I can't function.
I told my best friend last year, and finally told my therapist last week. We are working on it, but I am struggling . If I tell, everything will fall apart. My family will shatter.
But I can't bear to see him..
I feel like I am dying. And tonight , it got to a point of me contemplating hurting myself. And I have never done that.
I don't know what to do anymore..
I am sorry that you suffered the abuse you did and that when you bravely spoke up, you were not believed. I’m sorry to say that seems a common thing among survivors as the subject is such a taboo of uncomfortable existence that people deny it rather than acknowledge there is a problem..
Ihope you will continue to express your feelings on here while you journey to wellness. Perhaps reading others post here will help you see that you are not alone and that there are people whomwill understand the struggle.
Triple hugs of support~
I think that you are very brave for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for the abuse that you and your sister went through. Not being believed hurts so much. Then having to be put in a situation where you have to see him and having your voice silenced isn’t fair to you. I went through a similar situation with my uncle. I told my mom as soon as it happened. She didn’t believe me and kept taking me over to his house all of the time where the abuse went on up until my late teens and I felt like I couldn’t talk about it because I was scared that the family would fall apart and that his family would try to physically hurt me. I later found out that my aunt believes stuff like this normal. Strange how after my uncle died that my mom magically believes me now about the abuse and can’t stand her brother.
I wish we could fund a public information campaign withtv commercials telling people the truth about incest. I think if it was out there more it would be less easy for families to hide it. Adults might be more vigilant of their kids and protect them from harm. Not just assume family means safe, but instead make sure it means safe.
I too was not believed. Told the first time at 13. Felt the same as you.
Many years later, age 50, told again. Everybody was shocked, nobody wanted me to talk about it. Told me to forgive. Age 58, telling again... it is my story and worthy of telling. By telling we may stop the cycle of abuse. We may help someone else.
You keep telling. You’re doing a good thing.