Incest Survivors Support Group

Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...

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hopeless25
hopeless25
If its not one thing its another and honestly this time i did nothing to deserve this. My sister text me today and asked about the respide program i was in so i called the number for her to see what she had to do and gave her the information. Then she turned on me and says I hate you and I hope you die i don't want you in my life and that i didn't abuse me and she sent me a picture of a poem i wrote and i said thats what u get for snooping if you don't want to kno the truth then don't go looking smfh :(
bluedragon41
bluedragon41
You are tasked with holding this family together by your Mom...

...Setting aside the inappropriateness of handing that task to you for a minute...
-Why should this family be held together?
-What has it got to offer its' members, other than pain and betrayal? -Who benefits by y'all being together?
-Is it worth the price you keep paying, over and over and over?

...I ask this as someone who thinks you deserve to be cherished.
hopeless25
hopeless25
This hit home because idk it had been a role always given to me and if things fail it's my fault... Idk how not to play this role for I am my family keeper
ReadingTreasure
ReadingTreasure
Hope, I agree with hylierandom, you can't hold something together that they are actively ripping apart. What your sister did sounds like a typical teen move, I would say you can feel free to back off from her a little and let her grow herself up for a minute.
Cherished is such a great word, and sounds like it's missing for you right now. You may have to cherish yourself until you find someone else to do it who is healthy.
hopeless25
hopeless25
Thank you all... It's hard because she's my older sister and i'm suppose to watch over her because no one else will but that honestly hurt and idk I don't get it not I feel it's my faulty she's like this :( she was older and shouldn't have let it happen..am I wrong for blaming her ?
ReadingTreasure
ReadingTreasure
Well, if by blaming her you mean recognizing that what she said was hurtful, no it's definitely not wrong. But I don't think you have to keep being supportive to her when she attacks you like that. I think you could pull back somewhat and let her experience the consequences of attacking someone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My older sister let it happen and still defends the abuser. So no your not wrong. try not to blam yourself for feeling the way you do. Your feelings are valide. I'm very lucky to be alive because of not respecting and comforting my feelings. Thanking what and how I was feeling was wrong or in some way sick. Those things are not true and what we all feel is valid.
hopeless25
hopeless25
My sister was my first abuser
hopeless25
hopeless25
but we both was young she was older and started it she called it experimented and said her friends was doing it so should i blame her seing both of us was young ?
deleted_user
deleted_user
At some point you may decide to just walk away from all the negativity, denial, etc. and get on with your life. You deserve to have a good peaceful home life without all the drama that others chose. I chose to only deal with supportative people in my life now but it took me a long time to get there. When you get to that point don't feel guilty about living your life like you want to, you deserve it.