Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I saw it in my family and heard about the whining from my mother about how mistreated she was by my brother, and it was a constant theme when my dad was alive. So I guess that kind of mother losses out all around and ends up with contempt from the abused and abuser.
You may have to be your own champion and seek out the therapy you'll need to overcome this and be the kind of mother you want to be, if you choose. It's not fair, it's not right, but changing your family into a loving, decent one is a monumental task and healing yourself is doable.
Please talk about this to a therapist, friends, here, etc. as it is the only way to heal.
Hugs to you,
Faith