Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
How do you handle memories that return?
Do you believe them?
Since I was a kid I could remember a strange event that a cousin did when I was four. I did not think to much about it other that it was weird.
Then more fog started to lift and memory fragments started to line up and an entirely different story unfolded than I was expecting.
I know for sure I have not been a virgin since at least four. Did not remember that until I was 44.
And many more have been coming to me.
Some before I could walk or talk. My grandfather
Some very abusive and sexual. My father and at least one of his friends.
Mom trying to drown me. I was still in diapers.
I am obsessed to the point I am almost not able to function.
I am almost ready to go back to the time before the memories started to show up.
Since I am new to this site. How much detail is "okay" to include in one's descriptions.
Thanks -
Do you believe them?
Since I was a kid I could remember a strange event that a cousin did when I was four. I did not think to much about it other that it was weird.
Then more fog started to lift and memory fragments started to line up and an entirely different story unfolded than I was expecting.
I know for sure I have not been a virgin since at least four. Did not remember that until I was 44.
And many more have been coming to me.
Some before I could walk or talk. My grandfather
Some very abusive and sexual. My father and at least one of his friends.
Mom trying to drown me. I was still in diapers.
I am obsessed to the point I am almost not able to function.
I am almost ready to go back to the time before the memories started to show up.
Since I am new to this site. How much detail is "okay" to include in one's descriptions.
Thanks -
I had always remembered all but the first 5 years of my abuse. Then, one day I read something that my mom had written on her death bed. It didn't make any sense to me when I first read it, but it made me wonder. Over the next year or so other memories started to trickle back until one day I was slapped in the face with near total recall of all that had happened to me between the ages of 2 and 7. I doubted the memories at first, because I don't think I wanted to believe it. I didn't want to know that even more crap had happened to me. But it did. Only once I was able to fully accept that it had happened was I finally able to move forward and begin to heal from it.
As for how much detail is "okay" to give..............that is up to you. Tell YOUR truth. Just be sure to put a "graphic" and/or "trigger" warning at the head of your posts.
Trusted or thought to be trusted people.
I don't want to believe it. I don't.
But here I am.
Share what you need to share--don't hold back. This is a good place. We understand and relate. Be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself.
I am still having memories and flashbacks--but now I take them as they are, because at the time no one believed me. Trust yourself!