Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
Buddha says, "Meditation brings wisdom...Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom."
The Higher Awareness group says, "Meditation is considered an essential practice for those who seek self-knowledge and self-mastery. Why? Basically, meditation brings awareness of how our minds work. Over time, we become watchers, able to detach from the thoughts and emotions that play out in our minds."
"With this detachment, we gain the freedom to choose whether or not to act on our thoughts and emotions. We learn to distinguish between objective reality and our mental and emotional dramas."
Hans Margolius, essayist, wrote: "Only in quiet waters things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world."
"Mindfulness" which is a form of meditation, is gaining ground as a therapeutic tool. Jon Kabat-Zinn, Professor of Medicine Emeritus at the University of MA Medical School introduced Mindfulness, which is a combination of Hatha Yoga and meditation, into the MA clinic to help people cope with stress, anxiety, pain and illness.
Now, I know there is not a one-size-fits-all practice that works for everyone. And that may be the very reason there are many different types of meditation practices--some of which I have listed below:
Prayer
Vipassana
Mindfulness
Transcendental
Zazen
Kundalini
Qi Gong
Guided Visualization
Trance-based practices
Heart Rhythm Meditation
Walking Meditation (very, very, very slow walking)
I believe meditation helps us heal by reducing stress and anxiety as well as helping us get in touch with who we are beyond sexual abuse.
I believe it's a question of finding the meditation that works for you--IF that's your intent--and then keeping a commitment to practice...for it does demand practice.
When I hear people say meditation doesn't work for them I wonder how many types they've tried and about their level of commitment.
Healing is hard work. But, I think you'll agree that the alternative is harder.
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SuzA
The Higher Awareness group says, "Meditation is considered an essential practice for those who seek self-knowledge and self-mastery. Why? Basically, meditation brings awareness of how our minds work. Over time, we become watchers, able to detach from the thoughts and emotions that play out in our minds."
"With this detachment, we gain the freedom to choose whether or not to act on our thoughts and emotions. We learn to distinguish between objective reality and our mental and emotional dramas."
Hans Margolius, essayist, wrote: "Only in quiet waters things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world."
"Mindfulness" which is a form of meditation, is gaining ground as a therapeutic tool. Jon Kabat-Zinn, Professor of Medicine Emeritus at the University of MA Medical School introduced Mindfulness, which is a combination of Hatha Yoga and meditation, into the MA clinic to help people cope with stress, anxiety, pain and illness.
Now, I know there is not a one-size-fits-all practice that works for everyone. And that may be the very reason there are many different types of meditation practices--some of which I have listed below:
Prayer
Vipassana
Mindfulness
Transcendental
Zazen
Kundalini
Qi Gong
Guided Visualization
Trance-based practices
Heart Rhythm Meditation
Walking Meditation (very, very, very slow walking)
I believe meditation helps us heal by reducing stress and anxiety as well as helping us get in touch with who we are beyond sexual abuse.
I believe it's a question of finding the meditation that works for you--IF that's your intent--and then keeping a commitment to practice...for it does demand practice.
When I hear people say meditation doesn't work for them I wonder how many types they've tried and about their level of commitment.
Healing is hard work. But, I think you'll agree that the alternative is harder.
xx
SuzA
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I feel so dirty and used I was drunk and passed out at a party when I came around some guy was on top of me rapeing me he covered my mouth and told me to shut up afterwards he got up and got dressed and said I better not tell anyone I found my friend and reported that I had been raped after having medical checks and them getting DNA I've taken the morning after pill IAM just so depressed and...
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Upon his departure, he remarked, "I am in many people’s pockets; no one will believe you." Have you ever grappled with the silence that follows sexual assault, where the perceived impossibility of being believed necessitates self-censorship?
Sometimes if I am anxious and trying to get to sleep I will contract and release muscle groups and go to my "peaceful" place in my mind. Sometimes it is a path that runs through a meadow or the beach. I let myself wander in the place I created. I am not sure I ever learned anything about myself but it usually does help me relax.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jKeW1ykZat4
Not sure why, other than what my therapist said: It accelerates de-repression...
I already feel like I'm strapped to the nose end of an express train...
I have used transcendental, heart rhythm, a little walking meditation in the past and they calmed me for a while, but for me, there was no great revelation of self or increased centeredness. Not sure why, I have several books and videos of meditative practices and we incorporated guided visual into the curriculum of a Behavior Disorder classroom I used to work in - it was very good at calming some of the kids who were especially hyper, but for me, it just inspired a sleepy feeling for the rest of the afternoon. Too relaxed? Dunno.
But then I tried the a trance-based form and did not read enough to understand that once you have completed the exercise you should NOT go to sleep immediately afterward - I had an EXTREMELY bad reaction to the dreams that I had and it seemed to trigger me for several days.
So for me, I guess my form of prayer is the best. I can focus and work on achieving a deeper sense of being loved and forgiven. Those really seem to be sensitive points for me.
So, being raised in a very conservative church with deep beliefs and faith helped me after all - I have many drawbacks to some of my religious training, but that was due to the people involved more than the basic belief system.
Again, thanks for the info - it's is always great to have more options available to look into.
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