Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I am new to the whole inner child idea. I know her name but that is it. I am kind of terrorfied to listen to what she might have to say. Is this stupid?
My advice is to take it easy. You may not be able to handle all she wants to tell you, not at first at any rate.
Building communication and understanding takes time and mutual trust. This doesn't happen over night, but it is well worth the investment.
Good luck!
Hugs
No, it's not stupid. You have every reason to be terrified.
I believe the biggest part of my terror was to look at that child and see as well as believe that the sexual abuse was her fault. I was afraid of seeing a dirty, unlovable child who caused me all this suffering. I was afraid of seeing that there was actually something inexplicably wrong with me.
Words cannot describe the depth of my terror when I was asked to look at my abused child. But, when I finally screwed up the courage to look my heart saw a lonely, sad, innocent child. A child who had been alone for over 40 years with no one to turn to.
You have acknowledged and have an awareness of your terror which is a good thing. Don't let that terror stop you from connecting to, and listening to your inner child.
One small step at a time will do.
xx
SuzA
We can feel any way we jolly well happen to feel.
If somebody ever tells you "you are wrong to feel that way," they are *bullying* you. It's a *control move*.
ANYWAY....
In this case there is a logical reason to feel fear about connecting with your inner child:
She is almost certainly carrying a lot of stored pain.
Connecting with her is almost certainly going to free you to feel joy, delight, connection, in a way that you haven't for a very long time.
But there's gonna be a lot of pain and grief involved in the process.
John Bradshaw said "Grief is the healing feeling!" It really is...
Swear to gawd I want to pelt the man with snot-soaked kleenexes, though... :p