Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
I have been on a lot of different types of sites, but this one has me really confused and I can't find the answers in Help section. The site is HUGE and as set up, cumbersome to maneuver.
- Can I edit my posts once they are submitted? With ADHD I tend to hit "submit" and then read a lot of mistakes that I can't go in and repair.
- Same for Journal entries!
- I want to join a group, but it is hard to find the group I want as I don't see a good "search" method - just Alphabetical or Newest or Most Popular groups - I don't feel like searching all 640 some odd pages just to find a group. There has to be a better way.
- I am writing a lot of responses and feel sort of like a SiteHog; I want to assist others, but hate to look and see that all the latests posts are mine. I feel it looks bad. But outward processing has always been good for me; verbalizing my experience to help others makes my experiences seem less in vain. Why struggle so much and then just keep the lesson learned to myself? But I don't see others that are posting as frequently as me and again, this seems, in my opinion, to make me look bad.
- Again, frustrated over the site. Plain and simple.
Advice anyone?
- Can I edit my posts once they are submitted? With ADHD I tend to hit "submit" and then read a lot of mistakes that I can't go in and repair.
- Same for Journal entries!
- I want to join a group, but it is hard to find the group I want as I don't see a good "search" method - just Alphabetical or Newest or Most Popular groups - I don't feel like searching all 640 some odd pages just to find a group. There has to be a better way.
- I am writing a lot of responses and feel sort of like a SiteHog; I want to assist others, but hate to look and see that all the latests posts are mine. I feel it looks bad. But outward processing has always been good for me; verbalizing my experience to help others makes my experiences seem less in vain. Why struggle so much and then just keep the lesson learned to myself? But I don't see others that are posting as frequently as me and again, this seems, in my opinion, to make me look bad.
- Again, frustrated over the site. Plain and simple.
Advice anyone?
I am only in the Incest Survivor group, so I think it's the best, but you could just do random sampling and see how you feel. I do notice that this site has up and down participation. Sometimes there are lots of posts, and then sometimes it's very slow. We have quite a few people from across the pond too, so the time of posting varies. I'm in the US, but I notice that some of my favorite posters are in the UK.
I think most people use the journal entries like a diary, because not too many people read them for some reason.
About editing your posts, I think the only thing you can do is post again with a correction, like people do with texts. But I think a lot of people are posting from their phones, because you see that kind of texting abbreviation style quite a bit.
Glad you're here!
My corrections aren't really that bad, usually using word like "of" rather than "for", typos, that sort of thing. I am a little obsessive about my own output, that inner-perfectionist coming out, I guess. Those mistakes just make my sentences sound odd or lose meaning sometimes.
Thanks for the compliment - again, if I have learned something and don't share it, it just seems a waste of valuable knowledge and spent energy. And I have learned to love myself by helping others when I can; when I am my lowest I look for someone to help, and end up feeling much better afterward. I used to feel sooooo useless and this seems to take much of that away - probably why Social Work was so attractive to me. That is also why I leave my journal open and really have nothing to hide; I am past the self-shame phase of my life and feel any help given is another blow against my abuse.
I am so glad you are here also - was starting to wonder if others were really able to see my posts!
Thanks.....indebted.