Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
Just been told today by my counsellor that rape crisis are shuting their doors on t 15th of November due to not being able to secure any funding. Which means I have 3 sessions of counselling left. Am really devastated and scared. Been seeing my counsellor for a year and it has been slow process as I've never trusted anyone before but now feel like I would trust her with my life. Finally feel like I'm geting somewhere. I'm so scared to going back to t way it was before where I had to keep everything in. Have no other support whatsoever in my life. Am very scared.
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I feel so dirty and used I was drunk and passed out at a party when I came around some guy was on top of me rapeing me he covered my mouth and told me to shut up afterwards he got up and got dressed and said I better not tell anyone I found my friend and reported that I had been raped after having medical checks and them getting DNA I've taken the morning after pill IAM just so depressed and...
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Upon his departure, he remarked, "I am in many people’s pockets; no one will believe you." Have you ever grappled with the silence that follows sexual assault, where the perceived impossibility of being believed necessitates self-censorship?
You do have support here where you don't have to keep everything in.
Are there 12-step groups in Scotland GBR? If so, you can also find support there.
You'll also find support in Matt Atkinson's book, Resurrection After Rape.
I know it's scary when big changes come along like that; I wonder if you can spend some time with your counselor in these last sessions to brainstorm other possible means of support available as well as doing closure of therapy.
Ask her.
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SuzA
Your next session ask your counsellor for a listing of everything available in your area, chances are there may be a group you could join. If your willing ask also if other women would be willing to meet with each other and you ladies could start your own support network and maybe exchange #'s, or email addresses or even meet a couple times a month at someones home or even a church may donate a room you could us. I also know chances are this center is probably scrambling to find everyone the help they need, since they do worry about their clients and don't like to leave them with nothing. Just hang in there and lean on us here when you need too, Sometimes we just can't see the bright future ahead when the darkness seems to be surrounding us, Take care we all care, Blaine
I found a counselor through an organization called RAINN so I looked at their website for international resources. This is the web address: http://www.rainn.org/get-help/sexual-assault-and-rape-international-resources They do list victim support services in Scotland - I hope they're not the ones who have run out of funding.
Please use this group for support. I'm pretty new, but it seems people are extremely helpful and kind. There are sisters and brothers here who know what you've suffered and are pulling for your recovery.
I agree with the previous posts - talk to the counselor about other sources of support and services - and ask if she gets a job soon if you could see her in her new employment - might be a long shot, but it might work out.
I had several counselors withdraw for various reasons when I was in therapy; now in hindsight I can see that having to form a new relationship with a new counselor was a good thing. It taught me not to get too attached to just one other person and that there are other great sources of assistance out there. Plus, although this may sound terrible right now, having to tell my story over to my various new counselors allowed me to learn to talk about it more openly with just about anyone.
Don't get me wrong - losing a good counselor can be traumatic, but it also can allow for growth, whether you want to grow in that way or not right now. This can be a time of enlightenment and allow for you to learn to trust a variety of personalities out there. A little bit of a silver lining perhaps?
And, as the others said, lean on us here at DS for strength through this rough period. We are here for you and I can tell you that many of us here have lost or changed therapists in the past, and it is not easy, but true change and growth rarely is.
All my best,
Refuse2quit