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Or in a leadership position? I'm seeking some perspective. I got promoted about 2 years ago when my boss asked me to step up as manager, against my better judgment. As an INFP and as a survivor of different forms of abuse, it's just a bad fit for me. I'm really coming a long way in changing my beliefs around not equating my power with abuse and needing to caretake for everyone...but I'm not there yet. This position is not a "stretch" for me; it's a "break". The stress is disrupting my sleep. I hate to potentially cave to my fears and hangups, but it's more important for me to be gentle with myself and just step down. I was happier in my old position as a lead and a trainer for the team - fits in better with my softer approach and my strengths. Luckily I think I can get my old job back...but not without a fuss. I'm sad to have to step down, but I'm happy with relief. Wondering what experiences others have had like this.
The point is that YOU realize your "old position as a lead and a trainer for the team fits in better with /your/ softer approach and strengths."
Good. Many don't realize a promotion doesn't always guarantee a fit. In fact, remember Murphy's Law? People getting promoted beyond their abilities?
Glad you can get your old job back. You say, "I'm sad to have to step down, but I'm happy with relief." Why are you sad about stepping down? The relief part, I understand.
Go for the fuss, sounds like it will serve you in the long-run.
Best wishes for your anticipated change. It sounds as though this is something that you need and are looking forward to doing.
Saw a red flag when you said, "a big part of me really enjoys it..." Are you wanting your old position back because it's a better fit or because it's more comfortable?
Don't short-change yourself hereandnow5, survivors tend to do that. If you need emotional support while you grow into the new job go get it.
I'm starting a venture that will put me out there and am I scared? No. I'm terrified. But I have given myself permission to grow into my success, one day at a time. For me, this means that I will ACTIVELY do something every day that brings me closer to my goal.
If a "big part" of you enjoys the new job I'd give it a second look and a chance. And I'd find a life coach to help me through the rough spots.
Be good to yourself.
Suz, sounds like onto something exciting and you have a plan for growth in it. Way to go!