Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
i got ny first "oral" from mt mom when i was 16. I was too scared to say no. She told me one evening when we were in the livingroom to go in my bedroom, take my pants off, and lie on the bed. She said it was time for her to teach me some things. I was so scared when she came in and sat next to me. She talked to me about how she used to wash my penis when i was little. She then performed oral on me. I was so shocked..but it felt so good. It only happened one other time after that. I guess that is what started my fetish for being dominated. well..there ya have it. I said it. Thankyou
You don't really mention whether this experience affected you negatively or whether you just accepted it and went on. So, does the memory of this bother you? Some people can have such experiences and not let it scar them, while others are highly traumatized over such intimacies with a parent. It all depends on personal make-up, family history, individual resiliency, prior sexual understanding, etc.
Again, welcome to the group, if you need to talk more about this, feel free - there are several men in this group, along with some great female members who are very supportive and no matter how you processed this we are here to add support to each other if needed.
All my best -
Refuse2quit
I've got to think this has wounded you else you'd have no reason to come to these boards. But, if just the "saying" of it has brought you whatever you were seeking then I'm glad for you.
If you were hoping for more what is it?
And, of course, it "...felt so good" because that's what bodies do; I'm hoping you don't feel guilty about that because your body was only being honest.
SuzA
I would venture to guess that you are right - many people find that they harbor similar feelings toward people who are similar to their initial sexual experience. Sort of like "sexual imprinting" I would guess. That which first aroused us may be what remains as an arousal trigger for us throughout our lives.
And yes, you are right....if other knew of each of our sexual fantasy lives, many would probably make fun of us, but I guess that is why we tend to keep such private - somethings are just so personal that they do not need to be advertised. Plus, many who make fun of others do so in order to distract attention from themselves and their personal "kinks" perhaps? Just my opinion, but may have something to do with it.
I would ask that, as you are now on a forum that deals with people who have been abused sexually, you provide the other members with a little warning concerning posting explicit information - the members here usually put "TW" or "Trigger Warning" in the title of their posts that are going to mention sexual acts in detail - this way, in case a member is easily triggered by sexual imagery, they can chose not to read that particular post - I don't mean this in a "shame on you" sort of way, for this is an unwritten nicety that we provide other members with and all of us have been asked to do so in the past. Again, it just allows others who are struggling to be able to decide if they are ready to read about sexual material. Just an FYI for future posts.
You are more than welcome here and I am glad that the experience did not seem to really trouble you - many here have been deeply scarred by such - you seem to have just accommodated the experience - it was a part of your past and thus valid no matter what your response.
Take care and post as you want -
All my best....
Refuse2quit
What an awesome start. I must say I've sat beside many men in a group specifically for male survivors they had here for 5 years. I've heard many a story and there were a handful of men who were abused by their mothers. Even though I was abused by my dad, when I hear of a mother doing this, I'm truly at a loss for words to describe how I feel.
I sense a good strength about you, You'll do well! Here we have great people helping great people, glad you found us, My best To You, Blaine