Incest Survivors Support Group
Incest refers to any sexual activity between closely related persons that is illegal or socially taboo. Consensual adult incest is very rare. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma. If you or a loved one is a survivor of incest, join the group...
It is when we learn to allow a feeling to go its course and not fight the emotion is when we begin to heal the wound. For me there were many times at the beginning of my recovery when I triggered an emotion and I reacted to the emotion in the only way my mind knew how. Because I triggered an emotion that was not healed my emotional response was automatic and I would become overwhelmed with the fear, anxiety and sometimes PTSD. It was exactly the same response that I had most of my life. These events or episodes brought me to my knees and were very discouraging. It took some time to figure out what was going on. I realized I had to learn how to process the feelings rather than just suffer with them. It took several weeks to finally put it all together. When I started educating my self about recovery, early on, I learned and believe it was critical to allow my emotion to flow as part of my recovery. I had learned to do that pretty well. What I didnt understand was the need to be actively thinking about my path to recovery. Meaning, once I recognize it was absolutely imperative to put my reactions in the perspective of recovery, my soliloquy changed considerably. I went from having the reaction of simply suffering from it to dealing with my reactions by telling myself at the onset of an episode; I am in recovery and in order to heal I need to just let myself feel the emotions and not fight them and learn not to be afraid of them. Keeping myself conscienally aware of the path I was on changed so much for me. I believe not understanding or applying this will make anyones much more difficult. Doing this allowed me to feel connected and in control. It was like having a coach keeping me on track. Once I had reached this level of skills recovery really took hold. To feel the negative and debilitating feeling and to feel in control was amazing. It was as if my coach was telling me not to hold my arm so close to the fire. Only move when the fire burns down where it is safer to get closer. And when the fire burns out then pick up the ashes and blow them to the wind.
I hope this is understandable because it was very hard to articulate.
Rich
Just Another Survivor: Whole Again.
I hope this is understandable because it was very hard to articulate.
Rich
Just Another Survivor: Whole Again.
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I feel so dirty and used I was drunk and passed out at a party when I came around some guy was on top of me rapeing me he covered my mouth and told me to shut up afterwards he got up and got dressed and said I better not tell anyone I found my friend and reported that I had been raped after having medical checks and them getting DNA I've taken the morning after pill IAM just so depressed and...
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Upon his departure, he remarked, "I am in many people’s pockets; no one will believe you." Have you ever grappled with the silence that follows sexual assault, where the perceived impossibility of being believed necessitates self-censorship?
rich
Just another survivor: Whole Again.
www.justanothersurvivror.wordpress.com My story and feel free to read.
As always you are right on the mark. Each of us needs to find what works for us. And there must be a million different ways. I hope a message from my book is that we must keep finding the way that works and never stop until we do find it. It was so difficult for me to find my way at first but i entered recovery with the attitude of find a way that works and don't give up.
This weekend I was really tense and started telling hubby about it and why. I got as far as feeling the pin prick of pain when he couldn't handle it and changed the subject (yes, I was pissed off, but he didn't do it on purpose. Emotions scare him too). But just allowing that pin prick to break through released some pressure and I felt better.
I think it is pretty nice.
rich