Anger is definetly a nessisary part of the process... It is important to put the anger in the right place directed at those who have abused you...!!! I did feel anger too, I let it happen... I confronted my abusers... It was horrible and painful but it was done and I have stayed true to
Myself and my boundries... I do not let them in again... EVER...!!!

I heard this quote:
Holding in to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die

I believe it to be the truth because... Anyone who is capable of doing this crime is so broken that they have no empathy... It is a brain disorder they are born with and it is not possible for them to feel empathy... They do not care about you... Once I realized my parents didn't love me... I felt free from the guilt...!!! The anger disapaites because they are to broken. I would not trade my life journey with theirs any day... I would not trade my choices with theirs...'they are living in a dark reality that is painful and nearly impossible to wake up from... But WE.. Yes, YOU AND ME... Have the chance to wake up... To learn how to love ourselfs... To learn how to care for ourselves to learn how to rep aren't that traumatized scared love deprived child inside of us that never got the chance at true love...!!! We can do that and we don't have to grapple with the reality that we abused and neglected the needs of our own child... We have a better journey than them... I can not on any day in any way say I want to trade lives with my abusers...'therefor...'I know that I am better off than them... I have more opportunity at real and true existence with the light and love that I possess... If in doubt... Think of yourself as a small child...'look at a baby, a toddler, a first grader and say... I was that age... And always remember you deserved better... But now... You get a chance to
GIVE YOURSELF BETTER...!!!! BETTER THAN WHAT YOUR ABUSER WILL EVER HAVE... Now you are a winner... And they are the looser... So it doesn't matter how mad you get your getting mad at a inaniment object... The anger will only effect your own reality...!!!

Sending peaceful love and comfort your way...!!!
Don't forget you have the right to be very angery and to LET IT OUT...!!! Constructively...!!!

I was the same while my parents were alive. I'd repressed the bad memories so deeply I had no recollection of most of my childhood years. So I loved them like any son, even though they treated me coldly at times, like a stranger.

Don't expect your emotions to make a lot of sense, just as the abuse didn't make sense. Always remember that you're reacting in normal ways to a very abnormal situation...one that is not your doing.

With the memories comes anger now for me too. But it doesn't stay...and neither do the memories of abuse. They come and go too. It's just the way the mind deals with it.

Anger is good and normal for what you were put through. I felt no anger until relatively recently (I remember thinking it was strange as a kid and young adult that I never felt anger at anyone for anything), but with healing and feeling safe, it has started to come.

Sometimes I will spend a day thinking how angry I am and how I hate my parents. I'm not feeling the full force of it yet, I don't yet feel safe enough for that, but it will come.

What do I do with the anger? I acknowledge it and accept it, I hope one day I will also embrace it. Anger at injustice is good.

if you need to do something physical with your anger or to express it outwardly find an activity that will not hurt anyone else - sport, art, smashing old plates, writing your feelings, shouting into the wind.

HELLO, it is good that you feel angry, just don't repress it, I did, all my life was abused, verbally, emotionally, physically and just pretended nothing happened, but when it started to came out it was too late, I was so ill that I am disabled, so just let go of your anger feelings, shout, scream, talk about it, and yes what they did is just wicked and evil, letting go will help you to heal, a child has no understanding of abuse, and keeps it secret, but as grown up we understand and cannot hold it, hope you have someone to share and gives you support, love ****

Thank you everyone. This is so new for me. Finally feeling some sort of emotion over what happened.

Just thought I'd add - after 10 years of therapy, I felt anger at my brothers today for the first time ever. Big shock! For ages I've told myself that I wasn't angry with them because they owe me nothing, but I am. I am angry that they put me down, that they don't listen to me, that they behave as if our family was normal and non abusive. I am angry that they say they care for me, but won't acknowledge what our father did to me. I am angry at the role they want me to play in the family and how they try to keep me there.

All this anger was a big shock - and gave me a real pain in my head.
It's good tho - just feeling that bit of anger (there's lots more to come) made me feel stronger, better able to imagine standing up to them. Anger is good!

I felt that way for a long time, and still struggle not to. Normally now I turn the anger inward, but when I was putting it where it belonged (on my parents) I got restraining orders, and cut off all ties with them and my family. It's tough, but try to take care of yourself. I'm glad you're putting your anger where it belongs, not like me. I wish I could be angry at them again. Keep up the good work :)