As normal no good deed goes unpunished . I know so well that evil people get praised and the good damned.
I found out that my wife and her dad were lovers before we met and it went on until he died. I found this out after 40+ years of marriage. I was told after 3 months of marriage and she was not pregnant I was sent to see if I had a low sperm count, she went to the Dr. and got the test said I was told that I had a low sperm count and to try to have a better chance of having a baby we should only have sex on her most fertile day. I found out that before I had taken the test that one morning we had sex and when she went to her daddy house and he pulled down her panties that he saw my semen he got upset saying he should not get sloppy seconds my wife felt like she was cheating on her dad and said that she would never have sex with me again, but her dad said for her to have sex with me at once a month so if she got knocked up she could say it was mine.. When I found this out she was laughing saying that I was so barren that there was no way I could father a child, but I was told that all 5 children were mine. Now I know why her dad could take them out by his self and I was able. I do not know what I would have done if I had known. And the funny thing is I was accused of cheating on her and to listen to her preach how bad cheating was, and it was to throw me off.

WOW now that my friend is a REALLY messed up situation! YUCK I could never have love for my father and my abuse took place 4-13 years old. I moved out at 16! Hope you got a divorce because it seems that your wife may not be psychologically capable of having a relationship.

It takes so much courage to speak the truth, well done. In doing so though, The journey has just begun. As much as you need all the love, support and understanding at this time these people have been hit with a big shock, give them time, the ones who truly matter will come around the others may need more time or may never. The most important thing is to not take their abstance or negativity personal...protect yourself from any of their reactions by staying away and looking after the most important person in this situation, 'you'. You deserve to heal and feel the Beauty of life and those you love deserve to see you in its glory

Thanks Matta I really appreciate your response! A lot has happened since this post. My father passed away so at least I know he can't hurt anyone else. I don't think that most of my family and I will ever have a relationship I started telling people about my abuse at 16 and now I am 30 so a good many years have passed for people to come around. I guess some people have to live in denial. I am finally okay with accepted if people want to be in my life or not. I did the right thing and I deserve happiness! I am not harsh to anyone and I just look at the family that isn't a part of my life as ghost or just strangers in passing. Thanks for advice...I hope you are doing well!

sounds so much like my life,not to discourage you but I am almost 71 and I still get shunned by my family.Like I was 9 years old when my biological father started having sex with me.My family turned on me when I told (I was a adult)even my mother made me feel like it was my fault.My father has passed,my mom still lives she is 90 and has nothing to do with me.What I went through for 9 years made me who I am today,I don't know if how I think or what I do is normal,or the result of my childhood.If you want to chat ever I'm here