I have been dating someone for a little over a year and he has never been able to get a full erection if any at all.  He said bit was probably because of being nervous so I told him not to worry so much about it.  Since we have a long distance relationship (2 Hr) we don't have to deal with the frustration that goes along with a unhappy ending every time as often if we lives closer.  Even though he never has an erection he still ejaculates and is happy and then apologizes to me since it may last for 5 minutes.    We talk about it...alot and he tells me i nees to help him figure it out.  I have done what i feel i can do with no results, so i asked hin to go see a doctor.  He said he wanta to try other thinga such as eating watermelon, dring pomegranet juice, eat oysters and still no change.  I have reaearched and tried to help and i still believe he should go talk to a doctor.  He avoids going and we both know without sex in a new relationship, it could be coming to an end.  

It has been over a year now and he is a good man, but I am 8 years younger than he is and i am far from losing my sex drive.  He still feels I need to do more research and figure it out and seems to want to forget the option of going to the doctors to see if maybe there are other health issues.  I would go to the doctors for him if I could, but it won't solve a thing....he needs to go or I'm afraid I will have to call it quits.  The problem is, that almost makes me feel selfish, but I think if I would have know I wasn't going to be able to be playful and flirt without him feeling that he hasn't satisfied me again, so I stay away from him.  I know I don't act the same as I used to because of the bedroom issues, and would like to have fun and be playful with him and maybe someday be able to make love / have Sex for the fist time.  

I need advice.  He obviously doesn't want to go to the doctor and to be honest, our relationship will end if he doesn't.  And I will then go on to feeling guilty, but I dont think I can do anymore than I have.   I would like to tell him he doesn't care enough if he doesn't go, but he also said he hates doctors and that just leaves me speechless.  He said he has strong desires for me... So he has come to the conclusion that different food will get his blood flowing. That hasn't worked for a year and that is why I want to believe a doctors visit may be able to help.  

He has no idea that I have gone to a forum ...but I don't want to embarrase him and talk to my friends... Or his.