Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.

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kikel06 07/23/2020

Hello, I am new to all this. We got married 1 year ago and a little after that my husband started having ED, he never wanted to talk about it and it brought a lot of issues in the relationship. We are a young couple and really enjoyed sex, we want to have a family someday. Finally he went to the Doctor and it turns out he has uncontrolled diabetes. I am afraid his ED might be irreversible. I have always tried to be very supportive and I try not to make him feel less of a man but I feel really frustrated thinking I am giving up my sex life so young. He is going to talk to his doctor about pills but it has to be after they get the diabetes under control.
how do you deal with knowing there will be no sex in your life?

already59 08/15/2020

First off let me say don't give up on your sex life. There are remedies and other methods of having a great sex life as long as you are open minded and willing to experiment. Yes he needs to get his diabetes under control or ED won't be the only or worst problem he has to deal with. I highly suggest that you both get involved together seeing a urologist to learn what can be done if the pills don't work. I am considering a penile implant because my erections although I get them are erratic and I don't know when they will happen even with Cialis. The reason you both need to be involved is knowledge and understanding. Understanding what ED is and how it is affecting him and knowing what alternative remedies there are to having a sex life is good for both of you. You both are informed enough to make those alternative decision together. It will not be easy for him but if he doesn't set aside his pride he'll more than likely be alone for the rest of his life because at some point he has to have his wife involved. You can read up on ED yourself so as to be able to talk with him about it and to be able to talk about the alternatives. Truthfully the last resort is a penile implant. The both of you are going to have to be able to live with your decisions. I believe things will be great if you do them together.

EDtreatment 08/23/2020

I agree with already59.

Don't give up on a medical solution - there are many treatment options for ED.

It's a difficult conversation for most men, but you and your husband need to talk about his condition and deal with it together.

I don't know if I'm allowed to post a link here, but this article may help:

https://edtreatment.info/a-great-sex-life-with-erectile-dysfunction/

Leo51 08/26/2020

I tried medication and decided that wasn't for me. My Dr. recommended a little device call Giddy and it has made a big difference.

https://track.getmegiddy.com/SH6

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