First of all, take a deeeeppp breath, hooollldddd it, let it out slloowwlly. Even if the Levitra is to work, your anxiety could override the medication. My best advice is this weekend, take the Levitra, and then just enjoy whatever happens no matter what it is. Don't worry about whether or not the meds are going to work. Just enjoy the time you have with her. Keep your fingers crossed that they work, just don't worry about it.

Gabe,

Like RK said .. take a breath.
You got anymore of that Trazadone around? That's about the first medication I have heard of that actually helps erections. Almost all of the ones you would take for insomnia or anxiety or depression or blood prssure or heart problems will have an adverse effect on erection quality (EQ). Just a cruel joke played on us guys.

On Levitra .. do not wait til the weekend to test it out! Try it tonight by yourself and see if it has any effect when awake (need to add your own stimulation as best you can) or you if wake up with involuntary woodies all night long. That will give you some confidence that it could work -- although it might not power thru anxiety. When you sleep/during REM sleep you will likely get some wood. If you are not too sound a sleeper then you might notice them.

And there is always Viagra and Cialis still to try. Plus getting them from foreign sources so you don't go broke at 10 or 15 bucks a pill when you do get one that works...

Report back in on your success!

J

Thanks for your comments and your support. So I had sex tonight. I took half a pill of Levitra because I was convinced I was going to get no action and I was afraid to take the maximum dosage. I had a partial erection, enough to get it into her for a while. But it was difficult. I think I need to take the full dosage and to take it later. I took it at 7 and we had sex at midnight. The effect is suppose to last 5 hours. The doctor also gave me some cialis to try out. This is better because it last much longer. I will try it out by myself to see which one works better. At least I could get it in and she was satisfied. But to me it wasnt that much fun. I kept worrying that my erection was not hard enough. It was difficult for me to keep it inside her. She had to help me often with that. It kept coming out. It was not hard enough. Maybe it would have worked better if I had taken the pill later that night or if I had taken the full dosage. I will have to try that on my own. I hope something works. I am not happy with my partial erections. Sex becomes too difficult and stressful. And I dont enjoy it. I gave her a lot of oral sex and she finished before me which was good. But she wanted me to finish as well. I thought that was impossible. I was so tired by then. But she gave me oral sex and I really enjoyed that. I then finished as well which was a relief. I managed to satisfy her. She kept asking why I did not finish. Was it because I did not find her attractive? That put a lot of pressure on me, but the miracle happened. I finished. So in summary I managed to satisfy her but the experience was not so great for me. I am still having difficulties having a real erection. I hope increasing the dosage or changing to cialis does the trick. Trazadone was great. It gave me really long lasting erections and my sex drive was way up. But it causes insomnia and I need my sleep. I hope something works. I really want to have a healthy sex life. I am not there yet. Tonight was very stressful for me. I did not want to disappoint her and have her leave me because I could not perform. I still have to find a solution to have a full erection. I hope cialis works better or increasing the dosage of Levitra to the maximum. Levitra is kind or problematic because if I take it right before my date and the date lasts more than five hours like tonight then its effectiveness drops. I cant go on with these partial erections. It is too hard to have sex. And it is not fun for me. I need to fix this. I hope something works.

Gabe,
At least you had some success .. Almost in spite of yourself and your anxiety!

Yes .. Go for a full 20mg Levitra or full 20 mg Cialis. They seldom would cause TOO much erection.

And yes .. An hour before action shld be enough lead time. If you need Faster action try chewing it up and sloshing in you mouth with water .. It will absorb thru mouth .. Then a swallow and will absorb quickly in stomach. Having empty stomach helps too .. But not so important for Cialis. On a date that of course could be tough to do when eating in or eating out as I integral part of date. But if you worry about how to sneak in the pill while she's around .. Well geeze . she is not following you into the bathroom every time is she?

Have fun with it .. Try that cialis without her around. So you will know how it may work and have confidence in it.. You need confidence!

J

Someone told me that 10 mg of cialis will give me a bad headache. I am concerned about that. This is why I think I need to try it before having sex. But I only have three pills. I cant try 5, 10 and 20 mg. I need to choose wisely.

I agree that I need to gain confidence before I have sex again which most likely be next weekend. It would be great to find a dosage that works before then. Right now I am scared of having sex, of not being able to perform. It was very difficult last night. I really enjoy oral sex, giving and receiving. But what I am afraid of is penetration. Not being able to do it. Right now I am not enjoying penetration at all. Too much stress.

Today its monday and I am still really tired from the sex I had on saturday and going to bed at 5 am. I have chronic fatigue syndrome. I dont know if I will be able to have sex again next weekend. I feel sad since I have been wanting to have a gf for so long and now that I have one I like very much I cant perform as I would like to. I am about to ask her for a break from sex next weekend. But I dont want to disappoint her. Plus I still would like some sex. I would enjoy some foreplay and some oral sex. But penetration with her takes a lot of energy. She is very agressive. I like that but I dont know if I will have the energy for that next saturday. right now I am really tired.

I am glad to report that I managed to have good sex this weekend with full erections thanks to 20 mg of Levitra and no alcohol. But I feel I am losing interest in sex. It is not as good as it used to be. I dont have the same sex drive. I dont have the same energy. I managed to please her and perform well. It was just not as good for me as it was for her. I dont know what's wrong with me. I want to check my testosterone.

I find that the more sex I have with her the less interested I become. And its not just with her. I am less interested in sex in general. Maybe this will go away in a few days when I recover. I am really tired. But I am afraid I am losing interest in her and in sex in general. That is how I feel. Its too much sex for me. A couple of years ago I was in a very sexual relationship and I loved it. But now I dont seem to want that anymore. I cant keep up. I get too tired and the sex is not as interesting to me. I am afraid this will lead to the end of my new relationship. She wants more sex already. SHe just texted me to let me know. I cant keep up. I can get the erections but not the sex drive.

When was the last time you had your testosterone checked? Sounds like low T to me.

Well Gabriel welcome to our family such as it is. I am 55 and I know exactly where you are coming from, no pun intended. First of all, my friend, you are over thinking things. Stop it and stop it now. That is why you are getting all anxious and having difficulty. Try just lying back and letting her turn you on. Let one night just be about you. Above all talk to her about it. Let her know what is going on. If she is worth it, she will understand and will do all that she can to help. I take Viagra, we have upped it to 50 mgs. If I take it two hours or less before sex then I have problems. So I take it about 4 hrs before and we don't have any issues.
Secondly we all start to lose interest in sex at our age, some more than others. It just takes a little more focus than it used to that's all. You might have low T, which you are aware of, but don't sweat it man. You are going to be alright. I wish my wife wanted sex all of the time but I get it once a week so I am good. Remember that the penis is mostly muscle. And like all muscle the more it is used the stronger it will get. If you have spent the last few years with little or no sex, then you need to exercise that baby.