Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group
Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.
In my research and becoming a vegetarian (past 3 yrs) I have stumbled upon many cases where ED and many other problems such as high blood pressure (which he has also) was actually cured by eliminating all meat and dairy. My husband is a big meat and potatoes kind of guy. He is also overweight and i think this is part of the problem too. We screwed like rabbits before we married 15+ yrs ago. Sex isn't everything (for a while) but ED has led me to think he doesn't care about himself or me enough to give eliminating these foods long enough to try (little as 3 wks)! Through this process I have lost respect for him because I feel he doesn't respect himself enough to give this a try. Needless to say we have tried other things to no avail. He has tried the meds to no avail. We haven't had sex in over a year and I have moved into another room because I am so aggravated and he snores and breaths so loud from his overweight. Since then he has gone to the Dr and does a testosterone cream (I asked myself why since we don't do anything). I feel I am at the point of no return to even try. We used to have a relationship that others would envy and I (and he) say we used to be best friends. it has all eroded away with the lack of respect -my respect for him and his lack of respect for himself or me. Oh ya, his father died of a massive heart attack so he does have a chance of this happening to him. Yes, There are also other issues in the marriage but it seems everything has piled since this Ed problem has surfaced. I personally can't see my life as sexless and unsatisfied until I die! I just turned 50. I have really tried to live with the way things were and can't deal any longer. Am I alone here? or are all the stories I have read so far that the woman is willing to settle? I have always LOVED sex and intimacy and do not think it is everything but wihout it you have nothing (or leads to other problems)
Personally I wouldn't drastically change his diet so quickly. Something to build upon. More importantly is not focus so much on the diet but on exercising. Exercising has a bigger effect on BP, Testosterone, weight loss and ED than just diet alone.
Two years ago I was in the same position as a male. Wife forced me to the Urologist and he got me all fixed up.
Have you told him how you really feel about this? You need to be blunt and to the point on this issue.
After my girl left because of this I find myself lost. The sad part is I can get an erection on the meds most of the time, but she was so frustrated with the occasions that I couldn't that she left.
All I want now is to find someone who can understand that I am doing everything in my power to make this as manageable as possible and still have pretty good sex most of the time.